I got yet ANOTHER random call from my ex tonight, and I actually picked up. Before you get all mad at me, hear me out. She asked me how I was, and we just chatted for a bit. I finally asked her "what do you want?" and she said "Im pregnant". I paused for a minute, I guess waiting to see how bad this would sting, but it didn't at all!! :cool: I just said, well... "Thats great, Im happy for you". She apologized for all the crap she put me through, and I just said Im over it. I know we can't really be friends, but it really helped me know once and for all Im done with it. I had always known this day would come with her, but I was totally revlieved to find out it doesn't matter. I haven't been here in a WHILE because Ive been so busy with school and work I can barely see straight. Things are no longer with the girl from California, we are friends, and she is dating antoher one of my buddies now... hahahaha. Im still just dating around, and find myself in just the funniest situations almost weekly, but I embrace them now. I don't freak myself out, I just go with it. Things are great, just having fun doing what I want to do. :p

That's just kind of some weird sh--. Seriously.

1. Your buddy shuldn't be dating the California girl - that's a no-no amongst friends. Ridiculous. That's not a friend. Guy code.

2. You shouldn't be picking up phone calls from that witch. She's still screwing with you. That is not someone you ever want to be friends with. With friends like that - who needs enemies. She was completely terrible to you. Almost rubbing it in. Why on earth is this wench calling you? She is no friend. Friends don't do that to one another what she did to you.

Dude - that kind of some weird stuff in your life.

Your buddy is a jerk in my book.

Why does she feel the need to call you and tell you she is pregnant. Does she want your approval.
I agree with cat. Weird.

And I also don't think that your buddy is being such a good mate by dating this girl. Did he know how close you got to her? That you had feelings for her.

If he did and now he is with her that isn't cool. Either by him or her. She sounds like a bit of a player. Just gets herself around to whoever seems good at the time!

I agree with the both of you about my buddy AND my ex... The funny thing about my buddy and "the girl" is, they were so sneaky about it the whole night! I went to hang out with a group of friends (them included) and when I got there, I couldn't find either of them. I walk around a bit and see them making out off to the side. I was pretty shocked at 1st, but didn't really care much. We all ended hanging out a bit later, but they kept going around the corner and being all sneaky when I was there... eh, he is a bit of a punk for doing that, but he is kind of dull and lame, so I can't put it past him. As for her, she will do the same to him in due time... The REALLY funny part is, I kind of called him out on it too. We were sitting at the bar, and I said "I never go after girls my friends like" and he was just like errrrrrrr. Im over that whoel situation, and I rarely talk to her anymore. She kind of played my butt... and doesn't really talk to me really I guess LOL!! As for my ex, I really don't care. I know she was calling to try and FOCK with me, but the truth is, I couldn't care less. She is 21, married, and anout to have a kid... all in less than a year. I actually feel sorry for her, and I totally lucked out! My "buddy" is just the kind of guy that has no personality what so ever, so she will tire of him soon. I don't really see him much anyway, so no big deal. I just thought it was funny that was going on, and that they were trying to hide it from me as well.

Its good that you don't care about either of them jeff. You have bigger worries than them so I'm glad you don't seem to be letting any of it get you down now.
Yeah, your ex has really done well hasn't she? Rushed into a rebound relationship and now is pregnant. Smart girl. Sadly I'm pretty sure that poor kid is going to grown up in a brokne family. But anyway, who cares. You can't control that.
But I still think you shouldn't answer her calls and even let her think she is focking with you. What's the point of listening to anything she has to say anymore.
I bet her husband doesn't know she calls you to tell you things.

And your friend, whether he is dull and boring or not has shown that he isn't too much of a mate. So I suppose it is good you don't have much of an opinion of him because he has shown he doesn't have much of one for you.

Just keep moving forward jeff. How is everything else going can I ask? No need to answer if you don't want to!

Got to say Jeff Your life is Interesting to say the least but good to hear that your handling it.

I'd persoanlly deck my friend for doing that - but that's just me. He should know better. Plus California gal shouldn'r be dating him.

And you should never pick up the phone when that wench calls. She needs to be out of your life for good. This gal always has an agenda - and it's never good - she plays with men like barbie and ken dolls. Her husband must be a moron.

SERIOUSLY Jeff - you seem to let people walk all over you. Time and again. Time to grow a spine - seriously - as you get older - you need some balls. This stuff is NOT OK. IT'S OK TO SAY NO PEOPLE. IT'S OK TO TELL A PERSON, UNDER NO CERTAIN CIRCUMSTANCES, HOW YOU REALLY FEEL.

I'm not mad at you for answering that phone call but what the hell were you thinking?? Okay, sorry... but...

Ya know, I'm a pretty peaceful person, UNTIL someone "focks" with my family, my kids, and unfortunately Jeff, you've earned yourself that title. If either one of those skanks were in my face, well, they would no longer have a face, they'd need a crow bar because my foot would go knee-deep up their "a**" if you get my drift... Wow, that felt incredibly good.

The first ex called you to be a witch and bait you. There is no valid reason on this earth to call you, period, much less tell you she's pregnant, unless she's trying to hurt you. You know, make you see what you're missing out on. Yep, you're missing out all right, you could be even more miserable than you were before putting up with her escalated hormonal self. I'm not mad at you for answering her phone call, we all are curious at times and while driving by a train wreck will take a look to see all the gore, but for your own self preservation and dignity, don't do that anymore. She doesn' t deserve to listen to you breathe, much less be rewarded with the sound of your voice only to try and hit you with another blow! Wildcat is right, I'm sure her husband knows nothing, or ignores everything.

Cali girl turned out to be a bit of a tramp in the end, too bad, but don't you dare allow her or this guy to call or be referred to as your "friend". Her and the guy are apparently a match made in hell and they deserve each other. Even if you don't care about either one of them, it doesn't change the fact that they are pretty deceitful people capable of lying to a friend for their own benefit. I wouldn't want to see either one of them, at all, for any reason. He's a weasel and even if you only consider him an acquaintance, he's not even worthy of that. You say it's funny, I say it's pathetic.

I know it's easier to take this lightly than to react negatively to it all, cause like Skell says, you have bigger worries, but sheesh, that's a little too much patience!

These people and all their negative energy really need to be kept away from you, so I would suggest that the next time any of these animals try contacting you in any way or form, you totally ignore it. If you bump into them, walk away without saying a word, but if you do opt to use a few choice words, by all means, have at it.

You are a person worthy of respect and loyalty because that is what you give to your friends. Anyone not willing to give that in return is not your friend. Both of those women (and I use the term lightly) are being selfish, disrespectful, hateful pigs. Why would anyone want to even remotely consider that even a part time friend? Life's too short to waste on people like that babe!

Right on Mom! That's how I feel.

This is not something to take lightly as Jeff has. It's a learning experinece. To know who really your friends are.

The first ex is ta really strange gal - WHY on earth does she ever need to call you again. It's over. You need to tell her under no certain circumstances you don't want to her hear from her again.

And you need a spine and put that 'friend' who is seeing the Cali gal in his place. He broke a huge rule of guy friendship - you don't date your friends report.

I know I know, but seriously.what am I supposed to do about my buddy hooking up with her? I would LOVE to punch him in the face, but all it is going to do is make ME look like a dip sh#t. I did actually talk to him about it yesterday, calling him a "punk for going behind my back" This girl is NOT worth fighting over, he can have her. It is pretty pathetic huh mom? Some people have no loyalty. CAT, I think you are getting a tad out of line here. I mean, what is anyhting I do going to change the situation? NOTHING. They both know I know about it, and they both know I think its pretty ****ty of them, but they don't really care. Like I said, Im not going to fight over this crap because its not that important to me anymore... I do have a spine, and I do have balls, so chill out. I don't just get all up in peoples faces for any old stupid thing, not my style. I have NO problem telling people they have pissed me off, and if I knew about this about a moth or so ago, I would have been PISSED... but Im really not now. Im O-V-E-R it dude... Hell, if you want to fight him over it, come down here and I will take you to him. Personally, I have better things to do...

Nobody is going to be punchin anybody for any reason cause you're right, you will look like the jealous a** and she's not worth the effort, neither is he. I know you have a spine Jeff, I've seen you use it before when you put the other one in her place.

These people will just walk all over you, even flaunt it, cause they're idiots. No, there was nothing you could have done to prevent it, it was bound to happen due to the lack of their character. Frankly, telling that guy he was a punk for going behind your back was a much kinder word than I would have used, not that it would have changed anything. I know you have friends that still hang with them and it will be inevitable to avoid seeing them from time to time, but you don't have to acknowledge them either. I'm glad to hear you are over this. No need to dwell.