Today I had court to sue my ex husband for half of the marital debt. Needless to say, I still have feelings for him, however, I did not do anything to let him know this.

A little background - my ex left me 3 years ago - long story short, after ten years of marriage, I found out that he was cheating on me with his coworker (who had only started working at his office for a month - so I know the relationship was fairly new).

When I found that out, not only was I pain stricken, but it wasn't even two weeks before one day I came home and found out that he had moved out of our home and into her house. A day later, I was mailed divorce papers. I was shocked and couldn't function on a day to day basis, as my marriage of ten years had fallen apart in a matter of two weeks.

My question is this: My ex husband - ever since I found out that he cheated on me, has treated me as if I did something wrong. He treats me very angrily, and does not even address me at all. In fact, this is why we're in court - because he does not want to settle our debt as he doesn't even speak to me. Once he moved out, his girlfriend has been the one threatening me and emailing and calling me etc etc. I just don't understand it.

Why is my ex husband angry with me? I wasn't the one who cheated and who broke our ten year marriage. In fact, during our ten years together, my ex husband and I were very affectionate towards each other. We'd never have any fights, and the little ones that we did have well, we were able to make up very quickly.

So I just wonder where all the anger comes from.

You want his money, you ruined his perfect world, having you and a girl on the side

You've been with him for 10 years, you're in a much better position to understand his behavior. I'm sure we're missing a lot of facts. But from what you are telling us, it sounds like his new girlfriend is feeding him bad ideas about you, considering how she's threatening you by email.

You should consider getting a restraining order against her.

Anyway, I hope your court proceedings go smoothly, the sooner you end this fisaco the better for you.

I wouldn't worry about where his anger is coming because it is over. Karma will get him and his girlfriend in double folds.

Now he pisser than piss because now he is being sue and of course the new girl don't like it because your taking bread away from her.

So now she is going threaten, shout, etc. Save all the texts, emails, voicemail and get her next. One thing at a time.

Your being out without this loser and don't let him get to you. Stay strong! He is a dog and he has his bone (the girlfriend) and you need a man.

When your in court smile and see how that will pissed him off more. Walk your meanest walk, dress to kill and it will pissed him and the girlfriend off.

Any how just be glad he is history but get your money.

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So today, I received a package from my ex husband of ten years - as we are battling out how much we should split in marital debt. My divorce was finalized a while back, in fact it started three years ago.

To make a long story short, the way my ex left me was suddenly - he went after an older woman from his work place who made my life a living hell. He made the decision to leave me within a span of a month - as that lady had only been working at his job for that amount of time.

Anyway, today I received the court package, and the envelope came inside another envelope with my ex husband's hand writing. Then on the corner of it for a return address he put a sticker on it and the sticker read, "Mr. and Mrs. XX" - meaning his name and that of the other woman - and it had the address of the other woman.

It really broke my heart - in fact, I cried for a while, but then I didn't feel bad anymore.

I wonder why I had that reaction, but most of all, why my ex posted that stupid sticker - to make me feel bad, but why? I've been good to him - he was the one who cheated. Also, the envelope inside the post envelope didn't need a stupid return address sticker.

Who cares?

You're already moved on and thinking about this is just a waste of your time. You had a reaction of betrayal and the past of him leaving you. A person who does that to you, doesn't deserve your thoughts and feelings.

His way of saying its over. You have cried, now let it go, forever.

That toilet's been flushed. Good luck on YOUR future.