okay, my ex boyfriend can be real immature at times, and on myspace the other day, he just randomly told me for no reason leave me alone I don't want to talk to you get over it bla bla bla, but after we talked on the phone he acted as if nothing was wrong and now it's a fight again and I thought I was very mautre when I said this long paragraph to him, but he gets fired up real easy and he got offended and he started blowing up at me and I made the mistake to blow up at him back on myspace messaging of course... but then I remessaged him again and apologized and tried to make a pleading case where I told him I was being immature at that last one and bla bla bla but I'm scared to look at my messages now because I know him and he is just going to insult me again and make things worse while I tried to make them better and if I just stopped atlking to him, he would leave me alone... for now... in a few weeks, if I ignore him... he will call me and try to tal to me... its hard to avoid him but he is so bi polar... can I have some HONEST OPINIONS ONLY to what to do. Again, I'm that type of girl that doenst like straight forward advice, but I would appreciate the opinions, it would help a lot... thank you:o

I know you don't like straightforward advice but...

He is your EX boyfriend... why are you even putting up with his crap?
You don't have to talk to him and you probably shouldn't be if all you do is argue.

No not all I do is argue, I try not to be mean and if I say something I know is affensive I apologize for it but even if I stopped it right here I will have a hand full of people bugging me ina few weeks about the whole thing

Who would be bugging you if you stopped talking to him?
It doesn't sound like any of it is your fault and you appologise even if you aren't even the one who started the argument...
He needs to grow up and learn that he can't speak to people like that without consequences... next time he fires up at you go offline...
Check your messages but don't reply until he appologises, hopefully that will make him realise what a jerk he is sometimes.

That is a good idea... I think he is the type that probably would do that... he would call like crazy...
But he wouldn't leave me alone... and three of my other friends who are connected with him in a way... but only as freidns though one of my friends he likes and is trying ot get back at me by dating her but she turned him down but he won't give up...
In a way it hurts but in a way I don't give a flying ****

It's hard when everyone is still friends...
I've met all my boyfriends through other means, like work connections so when I break up with them I can easily do NC.

At least your friend turned him down...
Your friends exes are off limits, it can ruin friendships.

I can't really offer much else as I haven't been in that situation personally...
I'm sure you will get some good ideas from others though :)

Thank you very much:) my friend HAS dated him though like when we broke up she has dated him after me before and it hurt so bad but she said no only two times before and yes like 4 other times. I am trusting her but she is proabbly little liekyl to turn around and say yes later but little liekly to say no too and I'm still scared because it as much as a jerk he is and as many problems as he has... I still like him. But he has a AMHD acount... would you go look at him. That thread that says "To all the teens wondering if they should have sex(from a teens perspective)"... the one that has a sticky?. would you go look at it and look starting at page six... that is where he first posted something on that and tell me he does not sound messed up. Please?

You need to stick with one or the other
He says stop talking to him
Then he talks to you

STOP talking to him. You are beating yourself up over HIS problem of his behavior. I am sure he loves seeing you in the position of him pulling your strings so easily.

You that's what I thought and I really try not to let it get to me but he knows or at least lets himself think that it really does deep down inside

Is this something you want to put up with? Someone that is so volatile that you have to walk on egg shells. There are more and better fish in the sea. Go fishing.

Wel like I pradicted he called and said sorry I was just mad but I forwarded 7 of his calls(nonstop) but he got so annyoing aafter a while I just answered his last call and tehn hing up after a few words