Wow, it's been a really long time since I posted on here. I don't know if anyone will remember me, but if you do, I have been great (reason for the lack of posts).

Well anyway, now this might sound corny, but I've been talking to this girl on Facebook. Have been for a few weeks now. I've never met her before, all I know is she is friends with some of my friends. What I want to do next is get her number, or more likely give her mine. I think I remember reading somewhere on here that it's a lot easier on the girl if you give her your number rather than ask for hers. Can't remember exactly why, something about her feeling safer I think? Problem is, I'm not quite sure how to go about this. Should I just say something like, "Hey do you text? Well you should text me sometime, my # is ***-****"? I don't want to scare her off since we never met. Maybe I should ask her if we could hang out first, then go for the whole number thing later? I'm not really sure.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance. -Chillaxguy90

This is an easy one. Don't EVER give a girl your number. I mean, there are certain situations but 99% of the time it is better to get hers. Know why? Because you WILL call her whereas with her having your number you'll always be like, "damn, is she going to call.....I hope she calls....I bet she'll call tomorrow." Forget all that mind game crap. You take her number and you call her. Do not ask her if she texts man. You know she texts and she knows you know that she texts. You'll just come across as scared and insecure... lack of confidence equals no booty. Remember that equation. So, how do you get her number, right? The first thing is you want her to have so much fun with you that she'll practically be begging for you to take her number. You want to also make her laugh... a lot. You can do this simply by e-mailing her and saying, "hey listen, we should hangout and do something fun but I'd rather talk to you than e-mailing each other back and forth. Let me get your phone number and we'll talk about it." I suggest you invite her to an event. Keep it MYSTERIOUS but let her know she will have fun. Women love the unexpected!Bowling, a public show, anything that is laid back will work wonders. Do not come off too serious but you will weird her out. If she is down to come hangout make sure that you make her feel comfortable but not too comfortable. Make fun of her once and awhile but don't forget to compliment her too. I'm sure that my the end of the day... if all goes according to plan... that is, (1) you make her laugh. (2) you guys have fun. (3) you joke with her a little (4) you compliment her (5) You make her feel special like she is the only one that you care about at that moment (6) You don't let her walk all over you... that she WILL want you to get her number. Remember this too. DON'T ASK for the number. Asking is childish and shows lack of confidence. We ask when we do not expect to get what we want. I'm not saying to be a brute here either. I'm saying you should come off as someone with class but with confidence too. TELL her to give you her number. Go back to the e-mail example I gave you. You see how I don't suggest nor ask, but demand the number. It lets her know that you are confident in your game, your character, and that if she does not want to pursue things then its her lost and not yours. One last thing. This is rule number (7). Be laid back. Don't let anythign get to you because that will come across as weakness. Like, if she starts talking to another guy, don't take it personal. Brush it off and your will come across as the guy who isn't fade by a simple conversation. Be laid back but know when to pounce and take charge is the key. So I say ask for the number. Here is one thing I have learned over the years. Women WILL make time for you if you want to either be/chill with you. Remember this. Good luck and let me know how it turns out.

Do a casual invite. For instance say "I really wanted to check out this movie saturday night but my buddy bailed on me..." This is a hint for her response. Im a girl and I wound up having having to do this to my now fiancé. It will show her that you are bringing a social life to the plate. You can even end it by saying "thought you might be interested in going" If she says yes great then give her your number to call or taxt you to keep the ball in her court, so she is not intimidated or uneasy about it all. If she says no then hold off a little longer. Girls kind of the chase so don't just keep it casual and you won't seem to be coming on to strong, unless you do it every weekend. Good luck;)

I agree, a natural step now is to just ask her if she'd be interested in taking in a movie. My guess is the words will come out easier than you think.

I don't know that the text thing is a good idea to do first. Maybe meeting in person, on an actual physical date, should come first.

Try this line:

"Hey, we should hang out sometime, is there a number that I can reach you at?"

That way, she will sound stupid if she doesn't have a number that people can reach her at.

However, it doesn't really matter what line you use. If she wanted to give you her number, she will, regardless of how you asked her. If she refuses, it's because she was going to refuse anyway, it didn't matter how you asked her.

So just grow some and ask her straight up.

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Don't EVER give a girl your number.

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I don't usually like giving my number out to guys... If they give me thiers I know they are interested.

Messaging back on the first day seems desperate.
Message on the second day is 'cool, but interested'

If a girl doesn't message you within 2 days then it's not going to happen :)

Not overly related but when I saw that I had to add my 2 cents worth :p

Hey, thanks guys.

Jake, was kind of thinking the same thing about the text thing, but figured I'd ask anyway. However, I'm not sure about asking her on a date quite yet. I think I want to just meet her face to face first. Blind dates just don't seem to suit me. Sure I've seen pictures of her, but that's never the same as face to face. I'll keep you guys updated on what happens, although I'm not sure how long it will take. Wish me luck.

Good luck,

Take your time, you'll be fine. :)