Ask Me Help Desk - I'm worried... I'm in love with a married woman

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I am sorry if I seem judgemental here but you are both doing the wrong thing. I have been through the... I don't know... I'm not sure business with someone. You will devastate your wife and you should not have gone there if you weren't prepared to go through 'thick and thin' with YOUR WIFE. You should have given your wife the courtesty of leaving before this. You should have told her or just left her. Now she has to cope with another woman and it is not okay. Your are cheating on her and decieving her. That is not OK.

If I were you I would stop where you are at. Take a week vacation with your wife and recendal the flame. You got married 17 years ago for a reason. Sometimes after a long time we lose sight of that but its still there. You just have to stoke the fire some. My guess is the reason your having an affair is your marriage has become stale and routine. Most people get caught up in an affair because its new and exciting. Take some time and try and redevelop your relationship with your wife.

But if your dead set on continuing your affair be honest with your wife and leave her before you do. After 17 years of marriage the least you can do is show her enough respect to divorce her first then do your thing. Remember this if they had an affair once they can do it again.

Forget - this is horrible - it's going to be a huge mess.

You're a cheater - she's a cheater. You both WILL be strongly capable of cheating on each other in the end. What a mess.

You both GET DIVORCES - then get together - no sooner. What a freaking mess of a life.

AND offices romace rarely work - it's going to be a huge mess where you work WHEN you have to explain WHY two married EMPLOYEES are having AN AFFAIR.

In a nutshell - don't do it!!

Work on your marriage instead and see what's wrong there and work on it.

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Originally Posted by goldnugget

i am sorry if i seem judgemental here but you are both doing the wrong thing. i have been through the...i don't know...i'm not sure business with someone. you will devastate your wife and you should not have gone there if you weren't prepared to go through 'thick and thin' with YOUR WIFE. you should have given your wife the courtesty of leaving before this. you should have told her or just left her. now she has to cope with another woman and it is not okay. your are cheating on her and decieving her. that is not ok.

Thanks 888

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Originally Posted by Kryc

If I were you I would stop where you are at. Take a week vacation with your wife and recendal the flame. You got married 17 years ago for a reason. Sometimes after a long time we lose sight of that but its still there. You just have to stoke the fire some. My guess is the reason your having an affair is your marriage has become stale and routine. Most people get caught up in an affair because its new and exciting. Take some time and try and redevelop your relationship with your wife.

But if your dead set on continuing your affair be honest with your wife and leave her before you do. After 17 years of marriage the least you can do is show her enough respect to divorce her first then do your thing. Remember this if they had an affair once they can do it again.

Thanks 888

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Originally Posted by Wildcat21

Forget - this is horrible - it's going to be a huge mess.

You're a cheater - she's a cheater. You both WILL be strongly capable of cheating on each other in the end. What a mess.

You both GET DIVORCES - then get together - no sooner. What a freaking mess of a life.

AND offices romace rarely work - it's going to be a huge mess where you work WHEN you have to explain WHY two married EMPLOYEES are having AN AFFAIR.

In a nutshell - don't do it!!!!!!!

Work on your marriage instead and see whats wrong there and work on it.

Thanks 888

Do you have any children? Does she have any children? It does not matter if they are grown or not!

Do you understand what example you are setting for them?

You think you can keep it a secret? Yeah, right. That never happens. You will be found out!

If you are going to lie cheat and sin do your wife, who has stuck by you for all these years, a favor and divorce her. You obviously do not love or respect her. She deserves better than you.

How did you all know he was married? His topic says he is in love with a married woman-but I did not see anything where it said he was married. Unless I missed something or something was erased.

But , either which way, it is STILL wrong.

I was going to spread some love but couldn't! First off RIGHT ON SISTER (J9) and WildCat - it will be a freakin' mess of a life.

OMG! :eek: This is a freight train headin' for disaster!! I cannot believe TWO married people decieving both their marriages. Get divorced~~:mad: Let your "faithful" other halves have the respect they deserve.

Apparently he modified and erased his post.

All but "aa"

He was married 17 years and she was married 24 years if I remember the order correctly.

Unfortunately, I guess he did not expect to hear the truth.

Thanks J-9. I figured it must have been something like that because you all sounded like you knew what you were talking about and I couldn't see where you got your info from. Now it makes sense!

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Originally Posted by J_9

Apparently he modified and erased his post.

All but "aa"

he was married 17 years and she was married 24 years if I remember the order correctly.

Unfortunately, I guess he did not expect to hear the truth.

Well you're right, it was that they were both married and one was 17 and the other 24--

I thought I had a computer problem when I saw aa. I was going to refer "depressed" to the original post.

$hit happens.:confused:

Tried to spread the love Mo, bot got the pop up!!

I guess we all looked like psychics didn't we? :rolleyes::p

But what the hell did he want to hear. I know for fact that most people who post here are responsible people.

The honest thing to do is cut all contact with that co-worker.

He was here for a BIG reason - he knew he was WRONG. Sickly wrong. He needed to work on his marriage - not sneak around with a MARRIED co-worker. Great way to getr fired!!

Sure it might be fun sneaking around... BUT, I would want to be there at the end when his life was in complete HELL!! Probably hell for the rest of his adult life.

At least he said he was worried.

I hope he didn't come here for sympathy.

Leave this married woman alone.

"Tried to spread the love Mo, bot got the pop up!!!

I guess we all looked like psychics didn't we?? "-You said it girlfriend!:p

WC, he may have been feeling guilt and wanted to see if we would guide him in the direction he really felt he should go.

Now he is embarrassed cause he actually heard what he already knew.