How do you break up with somebody that doesn't want to break up and refuses to talk about it? What if this person is also a co-worker that you have to communicate with and have trust in the work environment?

Open and honestly, it's the best way. It's always hard, especially with someone you work with

Just like Rome said. Be honest. Would you rather be stuck in an unhappy situation because you were afraid to tell someone the truth? The truth hurts, but it isn't fair to either of you to be in a situation that one of you has no desire to be in.

Happiness is a two way street, but misery can bring everyone down.

The thing is I have spoken the truth. I have said this is not going to work. We both deserve better. We need to move on. The problem? He just looks at me and acts like nothing is wrong. Maybe, I wasn't forceful enough?

Just say "it's over, I don't want to be in a relationship with you anymore"

You are right, romefalls. I guess I never put it that blunt before. I still love this person and wish it could work but know in my heart that one can not "wish" something to be just because you want it to be.

It's an epic struggle to know that something should end, and actually having the guts to end it. To be honest, before my fiancé I wish I had your strength, my relationship with my ex could have ended 6 months before it did. We weren't the same people anymore, we both didn't enjoy the relationship, especially me. So I commend your strength!

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Originally Posted by Romefalls19

It's an epic struggle to know that something should end, and actually having the guts to end it. To be honest, before my fiance I wish I had your strength, my relationship with my ex could have ended 6 months before it did. We weren't the same people anymore, we both didn't enjoy the relationship, especially me. So I commend your strength!

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Indeed. I was so angry with my ex for breaking up with me. It killed me. But, after all the emotions fade and I started to see things for what they were, the truth shone through. We weren't happy together, and we had been unhappy for awhile. It was for sure hard for her to end it, but our relationship had clearly run its course.

Yep, I started wanting my own things and to do my own thing. We grew apart, some people grow together, others grow apart

Which leads me to my other question. Do people always grow apart? It seems to me that seldom are relationships on the same path. Humans crave relationships, we get lonely. Yet. We grow apart. What gives?

My fiancé and I haven't grown apart, my parents haven't grown apart. Since day 1 my fiancé and I have talked everyday and now we live together and are on the same wave length, sure we argue and bicker with each other but nothing worth breaking up over. My parents have been married for 25 years and they still spend every Saturday doing things together and until just recently, they spent every lunch together for 23 years(dad got a new job)

Hello again, I did it. Now the second guessing starts. I know that the relationship was never going to be what I was hoping for, but it doesn't stop the second guessing of myself. I guess time will take care of all.

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Originally Posted by jerseybred

Hello again, I did it. Now the second guessing starts. I know that the relationship was never going to be what I was hoping for, but it doesn't stop the second guessing of myself. I guess time will take care of all.

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I have found no matter where you stand in life there is a part inside that will second guess it. Happy or not.