Ok so my ex was really adicted to percocet from car accidents. I would come home and she would be crying in front of my son on the laptop, looking at rehabs. She went to have her tubes tied and then she went to her moms to stay cause I could work and take care of our son. I told her to stay there and get over her issues and we were just separated and we would work it out. I knew I was going to loose my job and didn't want my son to be stuck out on the street or moving all over. She place a protection order cause I kicked her out. Then the judge said a gerneralized statement in court saying when I start the process that is would be done. My ex and I haven't talked and I have been trying to serve her and her entire family is lying as to her where abouts. I also found out she has post pardem depsression and is taking meds for that. Im so worried. Today I found out she change my sons name. The brith certificate read Jason BLAH and she changed it to Jason jonny West. She also changed her name. I never signed anything saying she could do that and I have never done anything to lana or any other woman. There is mental illness in there family and her brother Killed himself at a young age. I am really woried. The court window clerks won't help me I don't have a lawyer or a job and I feel so depressed I can barely move. I even tried to have the police serve her and they lie to the cops and I even tried Check Welfare on my son and No results. I don't even know if he is alive. Help me please.
They stole my son and I want him back.. :(

Go to court and file and emergency order. You ask in that order for custody. Then you take that order to the police and file kidnap charges against her and a missing persons report on the child. Give them all the information you have.

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Go to court and file and emergency order. You ask in that order for custody. Then you take that order to the police and file kidnap charges against her and a missing persons report on the child. Give them all the information you have.

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I have tried to serve her in the past with the Oro Valley Police Department and Pima County Sheriffs Office. They had no luck and I have tried to at every house she put down on the protection order and some that weren't. Its too much money to keep trying this serving. Im unemployed at the moment. I know she stated in court that I was the father. I have tired 7 or 8 times to try and serve her. I have so many police reports and will this work? Her mother told police she went to Alaska and that's like a whole other country. I have no lawyer. Can she legally change my sons name even after it was on his birth certificate. And my Taxes she won't give me my sons birth certificate and I supported the whole year and prior to that. I made the money then. She didn't even make any money and I claimed my son and her and If I don't get the info I will have to pay the government like 4,000 dollars and I will be late and it will be even more money I will owe. But if I file like we verbally agreed on then Ill be fine and I even told her I would buy her a car before we split up and I still hold up my word even though I hate her for doing this to our son. He doesn't deserve this at all. What can I do and will the police arrest her or detain her parents too?accomplises? I feel wronged by them and I really apreciete your last comment I am trying to get down town tonight before the close.

There are process when you have followed the court rules for service and she can not be found, have you tried a professional process server, most are sneaky and underhanded but often find the person.

Next how do you know she changed the name, and not just showing you some fake documents, have you went to the court and saw the official name change, have you filed with that court to over turn it

I have the page on line in which the superior court would have me use if I wanted to file a server of publication. It's the same one that everyone files in for something like that. I haven't tried a process server due to lack of funds. I have the courts waiving all my other fees but as far as service I cannot afford it, I have lost more weight then I care to mention from lack of food and stress. I have no support. I sleep on a couch. I need to fix my truck and get back to work, in no particular order. I am just trying to help my son and keep on going with this process. It isn't easy. I saw my son every day until October. Now nothing. I need my son. I also took the case number associated with this claim in the news paper and crosschecked it in the superior courts website. I found that it did in fact happen.

[QUOTE=Fr_Chuck;1736083]There are process when you have followed the court rules for service and she can not be found, have you tried a professional process server, most are sneaky and underhanded but often find the person.[QUOTE]


I trust you mean this in a kind, loving way - :)

Let me ask this, why do you think she changed the birth certificate? A birth certificate is a legal document. She can't just walk into the bureau of records and change it. Have you ordered an official copy?

I can't cause My name wasn't on it yet. I don't understand how she could have done this

Ahh, so you didn't sign the because and your name wasn't on it. That explains why she was able to change it as the only parent on it.

So the bottomnline here is you need to get an attorney and go to court to establish custody.

I tried to she is hiding. She is stealing my son. Legal or not its wrong and she has already admitted in court. I don't know why I wasn't able to sign it. We were in the hospital for 4 or 5 weeks so it could have been any of those days. I am so furious that she is kiddnaping my son. So basically if you have no money you SOL. Cool Im headed off to the middle of the desert to be for the rest of my life. If it all comes down to money than this world

You asked a legal question and got legal answers. This is not a debate board.

If this is the impression you make in Court - "I'm headed off to the middle of the desert to be for the rest of my life" - you are going to have BIG problems at a hearing. The Court does NOT like cute.

If you want to debate if what has happened is fair, then this should be on a discussion board.

This is also a good example of why people should not have children with addicts or otherwise unstable people.

Instead of wailing about how bad she is DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. And that something is hire an attorney to advise you what to do. You need to file for custody. If her family is hiding her, you need tio find alternative ways of service. You need to get a court to charge her with kidnapping, but first you need to establish paternity.

I did file for custody. SHE IS HIDING. Her family has stated she is gone. I have no recourse. Can't find her, can't afford to hire anyone and yet the court allows her to stroll in and change names without any hassel. I can't believe it. I did submitt paperwork on my son. I just can't serve her.

Judy are you a lawyer? I just wanted to find out if your statements are in fact lawful advice. This is the reason for the questioning. No I can explain to you while you sit there and lecture on unstable people, Not everyone is unstable there entire life. Sometimes it happens. Maybe your perfect life has gotten in the way of your helping others. Thanks for your statements thus far... I respect your answers but I seek multiple opinions... I did ask for legal advice, I did question it. After all there is a disclosure on this advice. So being the smart individual I am I ask, I am just seeking the truth. If I took the first things people said as truth and followed through with the ideas, I would be nowhere fast. So please understand I ask for the simple reason of finding out more so I may better help my situation. I am not a dead beat dad. I am trying to pay child support and see my son.

First off, do not attack other members. Judy may or may not be a lawyer, but that is besides the point. She is giving you the FACTS of your situation. If you do not like it, you do not have to be here. We can only give you the information we have available. I found your reply to Judy to be uncalled for and rude. BUT that is just my OPINION. You do not have to accept MY word for it.

Second, members on this board are NOT LEGAL ADVICE. We can tell you the laws, the possibilities, we can even get you FACTS from either experience, the internet, or our own personal careers.

If you need LEGAL ADVICE, you need to get a LEGAL ADVISOR. Since you have commented several times about being low on funds, here are several sites for you to visit to help you find free/discounted legal aid.

Texas Free Legal Aid Organizations for Low-income People

TexasLawHelp.org

Legal Services Sites

Free Legal Aid and Assistance Benefit Residents of Texas - Seniors, Low-Income, Illegals, Women, and More - Associated Content


Again, please understand, I'm not trying to be mean to you, or pick on you. But your not being very gracious or appreciative to the members here who are donating their own free time to volunteer and help you.

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Judy are you a lawyer? I just wanted to find out if your statements are in fact lawful advice. This is the reason for the questioning. No I can explain to you while you sit there and lecture on unstable people, Not everyone is unstable there entire life. Sometimes it happens. Maybe your perfect life has gotten in the way of your helping others. Thanks for your statements thus far...I respect your answers but I seek multiple opinions.... I did ask for legal advice, I did question it. after all there is a disclosure on this advice. So being the smart individual I am I ask, I am just seeking the truth. If I took the first things people said as truth and followed through with the ideas, I would be nowhere fast. So please understand I ask for the simple reason of finding out more so I may better help my situation. I am not a dead beat dad. I am trying to pay child support and see my son.

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I'm not an Attorney - I'm an investigator for any number of law firms. Yes, I have some law school. I've worked on more custody matters over the course of my lifetime than you've ever dreamed of, from all sides, from all angles. Yes, everyone has given you lawful (I assume you mean correct) legal advice.

As far as my "perfect life" getting in the way of helping others, you have absolutely no idea what you are talking about and I fail to see how my life has anything to do with the situation you are in. You asked for legal advice. That's what I gave you. Accurate, correct legal advice.

Your "ex" was addicted and the very day you realized it you sent her and the child out of your house? Of course, I still don't understand why you thought sending her and your child to live with her parents was a solution.

Sorry, I don't believe it. I believe you lived with the situation for a while. Only you know that.

As far as you being a deadbeat Dad, where did I ever say that or even imply that?

As far as you want correct legal advice for your exact locatiion and circumstances - as you have been told and told and told - hire an Attorney. (I know, you can't afford it. You would rather sit there and whine.)

If you can't locate her, then serve her by publication and get on with things. Spending your time on this board is not going to help you find a job, pay your bills or get your child back.

If you want to be a victim, go ahead, wallow in your own misery. If you want to get your child back start taking the advice you've been given.

And I will repeat what I said that apparently offended you - as long as you have this chip on your shoulder, this attitude you are going to lose in Court.

Have fun in the desert!

LAST STATEMENT: I did not attack anyone. I asked a question and got an answer. I asked more questions about multiple peoples answers. I am not on trial here. I am done with this website. I receive some good help and some bad. Thanks for those who helped. I am done with this site so no longer going to check it.

If only some of these people on hear would read the previous statements made by others prior to responding. Maybe judy would have seen that I have no money. I would have to say that Judy's last post is offensive. I read her posts through and through. I don't know if anyone has actually had their child taken from them... Do you know what its like to search the internet and find your sons name has been changed?your family traditions erased? Do you know? I am in a difficult time in my life, and Im attacking others haha. I live in the desert and I love it. Its Called Sonoran Desert. I do enjoy it. Thanks
And even though you have been on all angles you aren't in my shoes so don't act like you are. Like I believe this site is for help not judgements and assumed mental health issues you did say you were a private eye. So you have worked in a field closely related and yes you may have seen it from all angles, you still don't see it from my perspective. So I do hope you all can be grown enough to see that 1. I am young and have no family and I learn everything on my own. 2. I work hard at looking for work but when we have the worst economy since the GREAT DEPRESSION. 3. trust me I run business for people and consult them in there ventures of business. I made lots of money before. I also wanted to comment that, in my opinion if you needed to have surgery and you went online and there was a site that explain how to remove and ingrown toe nail, I would listen too them. If I knew I had NO MONEY and needed to get this thing fixed. I believe like surgery and court issues, there are levels of severity. Just like car mechanic work. They sell books on how to do it, but sometimes its good to ask people prior to just jumping in head first into a transmission. Let be real. I am not doing this for fun. I asked for help. Again thanks for all who helped, I am not one to say you all haven't opened my eyes a little but in a different way. Again this is my last post. If you read the first response I got, that is exactly what this site entails. HELP with no bs. Thanks to that person.

I'm sorry, but you either want what we can't give or you refuse to understand the realities of your situation.

We cannot find your wife and child for you. We cannot go to court for you. All we can tell you is that there are alternative ways to serve your wife. All we can tell you is to get legal counsel.

If you really want to see your son, having no money would not stand in your way.