My husband say he loves me and can not imagine life with out me. The problems lies with his sec/friend who is happy as a lark since the divorce and is sending him text messages love you and so on. Runs to see her when her son had an accident, ran into her at the mall and had to go see her and her kids and left me alone. The divorce was final 1 week ago but we still live in the same house have sex and the house runs like it did before. Why do I stay she goes on all vacations, all holidays etc he thinks I am just jelous and there is something wrong with me is there

Yes there is something wrong with you for still having sex and putting up with all this.
Face it you are divorced. He is seeing somebody else. That's the facts!
Stop having sex with him and get out and get a guy you don't have to share with somebody else. At least get out and get a life of your own and leave him alone.

I can hear it now
When he is with her he is most likely swearing up and down that there is nothing going on between you and
You two can't even stand being in the same room. He sleeps on the sofa and never touches you... blah, blah, blah...

As long as he is bothering with her at all he is not trying to get back together with you
He is telling you what he thinks you want to hear and telling her what he thinks she wants to hear.

Yep I hear it also. He is telling her your only living together to save money. Which might be the case, so stop sleeping with him and running the house like your married. Find yourself a new relationship and move on.

Sorry, I don't get it.

He says he loves you more that anything.
He jumps to the whims of another woman - his sec/friend(?)
You are divorced.
You still live together and have sex.

I just don't get it. What's going on?

It sounds as if he's having his cake and eating it too and you sound like you need your head read. Why did you sign divorce papers if he still loves you? Why is he seeing another woman if he still loves you? Why are you having sex if you're divorced?

Why are you putting up with this?

Bradney,

What are you doing? Ask yourself what HE is doing. He's using you.

Kick his sorry butt out and get on with your life. Stop having sex with him! Wake up!