I am living with my best friend and her boyfriend. When my friend leaves he tries to get me to have sex with him. I keep saying no and that I would never betray my BF like that. Im afraid to tall her. She is happy and I have no other place to go. I am so stressed out! And mad as hell cause he keeps it up. What do I do ?:mad:

What would you want your friend to do if you were in her place?

Her boyfriend is no good and the happiness is a lie. If I was her friend I would feel that she deserves to know the truth. I doubt you are the only girl he is trying to seduce and the others may not be as scrupulous as you.

Will it hurt her to find out? Yes, but think about how angry she would be with you if she found out on her own that he was having affairs and trying to seduce you. She might see your silence not as trying to protect her but as trying to protect him. Finding out that not only is your boyfriend a cheating pig but your best friend in keeping the secret from her would be a much more cruel double blow.

Well, if you were my friend, I would hope you would tell me what was going on.

It will hurt her, I'm sure, but if she's smart, she'll kick his bum out the door and you will still have a place to stay.

I think you should tell her. Tell her that you're not sure if he is kidding or what but he blah blah blah when she wasn't home.
Then he'll probably tell her he was kidding around and he'll stop.

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Originally Posted by Megan2345

I think you should tell her. Tell her that you're not sure if he is kidding or what but he blah blah blah when she wasn't home.
Then he'll probably tell her he was kidding around and he'll stop.

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No, I don't think he'll stop being an arse.

Her friend needs to know so she doesn't waste any more time on this creep.

I vote telling her. If you're a friend, you would let her know about how horrible her boyfriend is... she deserves to know he's a bad person and would betray her.

Yup, she is actually betraying her friend by not telling her!

I think you need to find a new place to live. I've seen this scene play out before, and she may turn on you and side with him... especially if she's happy with him.

Although I partly agree with Chuff, I think that you probably need to talk to your friend.

It's not like you have discovered that he's cheating with someone else - he's trying to cheat WITH you, so it affects you directly.

There is always the risk that she won't believe you and he'll no doubt deny it, but in the end it's a question of ethics. Is it ethical for you to be silent about something that directly affects the happiness of your friend?

He's a slimy creep - is that what you really want for your friend?

Better tell her now than its too late,, to avoid the mess, u MAY find another place to stay but your fren gets cheated as long as her guy keeps hitting on her frens,, who knows, you mite not be the only one hez hitting on,,

Tell her and during that same conversation tell her your going to look for a new place to live and explain the reason. Be honest with your friend, you'd want the same respect.

You really are in a bind. You need to try to find a way to get out of her house.
If you tell her she could think you are lying because you want them broke up or something
If you don't tell her and she finds out he is a big cheat she could think you are lying and cheating too.