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  • May 12, 2009, 09:12 PM
    st side singer
    I really like this guy at my school and he's in year 12 and I'm only in yr10 and I really like this guy but I don't think he even knows who I am... or my name for that fact. I really want to get to know him but at the same time I don't know where to start. I'm not a shy person I no how to talk to guys but not ones that I have never spoken to in my whole life. He has a sister in my year level but I don't want to talk to her about my feelings about him..

    Ive hooked up with this guy before but I never went out with him and the one time I generally like a guy I don't know how to approach them. Do you have any advice? I really want some advice I want this relationship to work out
  • May 12, 2009, 09:24 PM
    kp2171
    Opinion...

    Never be afraid to be yourself and to act.

    If he doesn't respond to your approach, then fine. You know reality.

    There are several billion people on this earth. Some of them will like you big time. Some of them won't.

    Don't fret taking risks.

    If you "fail" because you took a chance, it isn't failure at all.

    The people I admire the most are those who said "what the ****" and tried... no matter the outcome.

    So... it isn't life or death... you like him... fine... take a chance... if he doesn't respond in kind it doesn't mean anything is wrong with you... I have loved women who didn't want to be with me.

    Sucks rocks big time, but its not the end of the world.

    When I'm an old man I doubt ill regret the dumb things I did. It's the things I wished id had the guts to do thatll p!ss me off.

    So don't fret about it. Most young loves last for a time, not all time.

    Maybe he will play the part, maybe he won't.

    The sexiest thing I've ever known is a confident woman.

    Be confident.
  • May 12, 2009, 10:35 PM
    Clough

    Hi, st side singer!

    Perhaps there might be an activity in which the two of you and others might participate where you could have the opportunity to interact with him?

    Are you and he in any of the same classes? If so, which ones, please?

    Hopefully, others will come along to address your question.

    Thanks!
  • May 13, 2009, 09:40 AM
    talaniman

    Quote:
    Ive hooked up with this guy before but I never went out with him
    Define hooked up.
  • May 13, 2009, 06:21 PM
    st side singer
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Define hooked up.
    I hooked up with this guy as in made out and touching but NO sex I'm only 15 and I know my morals

    If you have any advice about this guy I like because I don't know what to do? Or how to approach him. Because he's in his final year of high school and I'm only in year 10 which is 2 years below him and I feel like he's thinks of me as just some little kid... HELP? :(
  • May 13, 2009, 06:24 PM
    st side singer
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Clough View Post
    Hi, st side singer!

    Perhaps there might be an activity in which the two of you and others might participate where you could have the opportunity to interact with him?

    Are you and he in any of the same classes? If so, which ones, please?

    Hopefully, others will come along to address your question.

    Thanks!
    I don't have any classes with him since he's 2 years above me at school... so I still don't know how to approch him... his locker at school is above me and I see him every day but still I don't know how to start a conversation with him... as I don't really know him... I do know that he likes softballl and he's played for many years but still I have know idea what to do!!
    ADVICE?? :confused:
  • May 13, 2009, 06:29 PM
    st side singer
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by kp2171 View Post
    personal opinion...

    never be afraid to be yourself and to act.

    if he doesnt respond to your approach, then fine. you know reality.

    there are several billion people on this earth. some of them will like you big time. some of them wont.

    dont fret taking risks.

    if you "fail" because you took a chance, it isnt failure at all.

    the people i admire the most are those who said "what the ****" and tried... no matter the outcome.

    so.... it isnt life or death... you like him... fine... take a chance... if he doesnt respond in kind it doesnt mean anything is wrong with you... i have loved women who didnt want to be with me.

    sucks rocks big time, but its not the end of the world.

    when im an old man i doubt ill regret the dumb things i did. its the things i wished id had the guts to do thatll p!ss me off.

    so dont fret about it. most young loves last for a time, not all time.

    maybe he will play the part, maybe he wont.

    the sexiest thing ive ever known is a confident woman.

    be confident.
    Hi...
    I am a very confident girl as I am a singer and I know how to present myself confidently but still I don't know what to do about this guy, can you please help ,me I don't know how to approach him and start a conversation with him, when I don't think he even knows my name. My friends haven't given me any advice about how to approach him but they've never really dated a guy at our school.. and I really like him, Ive only told one of my friends that I like him as things like that travel around my school very fast! :eek:
  • May 13, 2009, 06:49 PM
    kp2171
    I will say this again...

    Confidence is a great thing.

    If you approach him and he can't handle that you just walk up and talk to him... well... that isn't your fault.

    Honestly... the dumn things I've done will never keep me up at night. It's the damn things I never did thatll pester me to no end.

    So... relax. Understand most young love and yound likes are not everlasting. Intense... but not lasting.

    Which means you can talk to him and whatever happens happens.

    If he keys in on you, keep your head about you.

    If he doesn't respond, don't take it personally. It might be bad timing. It happens. Been there, done that.

    So... the most important thing here is for you to be comfortable with yourself. Just accept that most of us screw up over and over and learn from it. Once you believe that you don't have to "get it right" all the time, every time... well, then you get to relax a little... understand that sometimes things work out better than you expected and sometimes it crashes and burns even with the best of intentions.

    So...

    Be yourself, whatever you decide.

    After that, all else is just the crazy ride we call life.
  • May 13, 2009, 08:56 PM
    talaniman
    If you have already "made out" with him, the next move is his. Just know he may want more making out, as opposed to a relationship. You may have morals, but a reputation also.

    Sorry that doesn't help you approach him, does it. But I doubt he sees you as a kid though. Easy maybe, but not a kid.
  • May 13, 2009, 11:04 PM
    Clough

    Hi again, st side singer!

    Do you like to play softball?

    Thanks!
  • May 14, 2009, 11:49 PM
    st side singer
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    If you have already "made out" with him, the next move is his. Just know he may want more making out, as opposed to a relationship. You may have morals, but a reputation also.

    Sorry that doesn't help you approach him, does it. But I doubt he sees you as a kid though. Easy maybe, but not a kid.
    I never made out with the kid I like I made out with this red head (big mistake) the guy I like is about 17 or 18 and I'm only 15 to me I think that he looks at me like a child:(
  • May 15, 2009, 04:14 AM
    talaniman

    Your going to have to take a chance and see, by at least having the courage to say HI, just to see if there is an interest on his part.

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