I'm 23 years old,and sometimes its hard for me to orgasm.. my boyfriend will be eating me out or playing with me and ill feel myself get close and then the feeling just goes away.. what can I do to keep it coming,so I can orgasm?

How often is it harder, 10 percent ? 50 percent of the time,

Sometimes I get the feeling and I'm so close then it just goes away.. so like 60% of the time..

The best way to have an orgasm, when you feel it coming on - is to slightly increase the stimulation, focus on the sensation and relax. You may increase clitoral stimulation or have your nipples stimulated when you feel the orgasm coming on. Only you will know how much stimulation is required.

It takes time and experience to do this and worrying about not 'coming', or trying to control it is the best way to stop coming. Just relax and enjoy yourself, you may find that it happens naturally if you don't worry about it.

The more you THINK about it, the less likely it is to happen.

Just enjoy the ride, and if it happens, GREAT! If not, it still feels good, right?

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Originally Posted by 23girl

sometimes i get the feeling and im soo close then it just goes away..so like 60% of the time..

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GRRRRR I hate that! I have that quite a bit... as long as you/your partner are willing to keep going the suspense and build up tends to make the orgasm a lot better ;)

Avoid distractions... its all about getting into the moment and enjoying it. You can't force it or its not going to happen.