Ask Me Help Desk - Bipolar Ex Boyfriend?

Okay, so I dated this guy about a year ago for 6 months and we were completely head over heels in love with each other. I thought we were going to spend the rest of our lives together!

Then he moved away about 40 minutes away from me. I was really upset but we stayed together. But we kept fighting and he didn't want me talking to any guys or anything. So, we fought and fought until one day he said "I'm done talking to you. I don't want to be your friend anymore." So, we didn't talk for 7 whole months afterwards.

During those 7 months, I ran into him twice. He didn't talk to me but kept arguing with my new boyfriend that I had saying that I was still obsessed with him and checking out his MySpace all the time and everything. He also called my boyfriend whipped.

His girlfriend at the time told me later on that during the summer he would mention me a lot if they went somewhere that we went together before. But, he would stop himself because I guess it hurt him?

Anyway, we didn't talk directly all summer and had each other blocked on everything.

Then one day in October, he saw a video of me and him on YouTube. He IMed me and said it made him really happy and he shed a tear or two because of it. He wanted to be friends again.

I was really happy about this and we were good friends for a while. But then he yelled at me randomly sometimes beacause he thought I was talking bad things behind his back when I wasn't. He would really get mad and flip out on me. Then his new girlfriend at the time saw the video of me and him and yelled at him about it. So, he yelled at me and said, "Get that video off. It's over. It's been over for a year now. Get over it."

He apologized later on but it was still weird that he said that.

So now, me and him aren't talking. We had a heart-to-heart a few times together but that was in February. Then he talked to me every other day and we hung out a few times and it was really good! Then I got a new boyfriend and he didn't talk to me for a month. For no reason.

Then last week, he saw me flirting with his friend and called me a who** and a bit** and denied it later on. He said I was still obsessed with him when I barely even talk to him anymore.

I seriously miss how we used to be and I just wanted to be friends.
I've had him blocked because he said I was obsessed with him when I don't talk to him or about him anymore. He told my friend that he didn't hate me and he wasn't mad at me but said I was obsessed with him.

What do I do to make him want to talk to me again? I want to be at LEAST his friend. I can move on without him but still... it's always going to be in the back of my mind, you know?

Please help!

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I seriously miss how we used to be and I just wanted to be friends.

Of course you do, but to be real, Thats over with. Why?? Read on.

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I've had him blocked because he said I was obsessed with him when I don't talk to him or about him anymore.

Right or wrong, thats not how he sees things, or how he acts, is it?

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He told my friend that he didn't hate me and he wasn't mad at me but said I was obsessed with him.

Thats how he sees things for whatever reasons, and you see how he handles that perspective.

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What do I do to make him want to talk to me again?

Its unhealthy and unrealistic to want to talk to him, given whats happen in the past. Leave him alone and deal with the loss of a "friend"

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I want to be at LEAST his friend. I can move on without him but still... it's always going to be in the back of my mind, you know?

You can't make him act in a friendly honorable way toward you and he has proved he can be anything, but a friend to you.

I strongly suggest you leave him alone, and keep him in your prayers, but stop putting yourself in the position to keep being hurt, and disappointed by his actions, and words. Do it for yourself, as you sure as hell ain't going to change him.

You may never forget him, but that doesn't mean you can't protect yourself from him. It happens in life, and sometimes we have to leave some people alone. Whether we want to, or not.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

You may never forget him, but that doesn't mean you can't protect yourself from him. It happens in life, and sometimes we have to leave some people alone. Whether we want to, or not.

Even in other posts, I'm learning so much from the tal man.

Yeah, I see what you're saying. He just doesn't know what he wants from me. He keep changing his mind I guess you would say. It's really hard to let him go because I loved him so much at one point and when we were friends it was like I was getting my best friend back.

When we dated, we were best friends too.
So when we broke up, I lost a best friend and a boyfriend.

It was really really hard.
I hope he changes one day even though you said that I can't no matter what I do, and I hope he becomes a better person in the future. I will surely miss him.

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As in my other post, my ex told everyone that I was obsessed and everything with him and blah blah blah.

Well, yesterday, I decided to make a video of all my friends and people I had memories with throughout High School. Which, of course, included ex boyfriends.

I added 3 ex's to my video and they all saw it and liked it.

But, this ex wasn't supposed to see it but he did anyway.

As soon as he saw it, he told my friend that he wanted to be friends with me again. Just like that. He wanted to give me and him being friends another try.

The other time he's said this was another video of me and him together.

What is with this kid? So, I'll post a video every time we get in a fight? Ahh help!

Ok What?

You made a video of your X boyfriends. You all seem young? How old are you guys.
and have had a real? Relationship...

Why did you guys break up in the first place?
what did he do?
what did you do?

Do you want him back in your life?

So man questions that's need to be asked her

you can't just say I have an X I made a video of him now he wants to be friends again what do I do?

because that, my sweet helps no one

Stop making videos, you need to move on from this guy. You had to have known he would see the video soon enough. I wonder what you kids would do without the internet these days, it's depended upon for so much anymore

Um, it wasn't my choice to put my ex boyfriends in the video. My mom wanted to have ALL the people in my life at that time in my video. So, I did.

So don't yell at me about it.

Anyway, I'm 18 he's 17.
We dated for 5 months and were completely freaking in love.
We broke up because he had moved away like 40 minutes away from me and we kept fighting and yeah. We never said goodbye.
We both acted differently to the breakup. I was depressed and he turned to sex and drugs.

I do want him back in my life. I miss how he was and I miss being his friend.

He saw a video of me and him yesterday and he told me he wanted to be friends again and wanted to give us another shot at being good friends.

Insanity- Doing the same things over and over, and expecting different results.

What his behavior been it the past, will probably be his behavior in the future.

Just because you want his friendship, you will give in, until he talks crap about you again, and you have to leave him alone (AGAIN ).

Break the cycle by telling him NO way, or else accept his bad behavior once again, and don't trip over it.

I'll see what happens.

Yeah, we're still good friends.

Hi, I just read this post. I am in a same situation. However, I am the one you think having the trouble one! I know exactly your ex boyfriend feel. It is all your fault actually! You know what? You said at first you got a boyfriend but you keep going back 2 times try to contact in that 7 months! That is playing him! Coz he thinks you want to fool him around! Just ask yrself if that moment he back, will you dump your boyfriend that moment? I sure you not! Then he got new girlfriend but not keep in touch because he really do love you however he was trying to move on and in a rebound relationship! Then after that he saw the videos and all emotionals come out and want to start again but he wants you to say you want to be wif him again. He afraid and tired that you will get other guys and cheating! Coz you do talk to him and want him back when you got boyfriend. You got history for the emotional cheating!! After a while you said you n him hang out on feb... Yet then got a new boyfriend! Of because he think you are a slut! If I am that guy, I will think you fooling me as well! You even flirt some of his fds and dude... Did you think about his feeling? I surely not!! My ex did the similar things to me! He date some girls and secretly talk to them and wif them... But still hang out wif me... Even I try to dating wif him. Then I found out he got new girl... I love him... But he always like to catch new fish!! How can I get back wif him? Now he even said he got engaged!! However he still talk to me! And want to see me and said I wif boys whatever!! I just told him yesterday maybe time to date other guys... But seems he not care... U know... I really want him to be wif me and not wif that slut! But every time, me and him argue too much! But I know we love each others but too hurt! I just want to say that is all your fault! You date new guy too soon! If u really love him... U should be single and work things out!! Not like this!!

Don't know why want to reply this post... Although is like 3 yrs ago! I don't know you still now regret or not... But I sure that guy maybe now really move on and really find his next