Ask Me Help Desk - Anger problems

A little while ago I had a fight with a teacher, and as you can imagine a year 10 middle school 16 year old has an attitude I walked out class and hit the first person I saw who was this guy in the same year as me, I got suspended for 4 days and I enrolled to do anger management classes but I haven't felt any change in myself yet. I feel so bad for what I did but at the same time I also felt really good, what else should I do to help my anger problems :S

Believe it or not, your attitude is affected by what you eat; mainly soy, corn and peanuts. So by cutting down on those foods you should see an improvement in your behavior. Also when you feel like you are going to lose your temper and beat the hell out of somebody, repeat the phrases, "I am sorry, forgive me, I love you, thank you" By repeating those over and over for a few minutes it will neutralize whatever is bothering you. In case you need extra proof Zero Limits

Everyone gets angry, regardless of being 16 or 36. Hitting people seems OK before you can get legally charged for it, at 16 there is still a possibility for legal charges to be pressed. You don't want to spend your high school years doing some time in Juvenille Detention or jail (believe me it can happen, Its called PINS or person in need of supervision.) When I get mad, I walk away and blow off steam, this is the best way I have found to deal with anger. Just walk away till your mind clears, if people try to come after you to calm you down, just say I need some time alone. You'll be pissed off, cursing everyone, but then your mind will eventually calm so you can look at the best way to deal with the situation. It might take minutes or hours, but just make sure you do it alone, or with a neutral person who will just LISTEN to you vent. Good luck.

In high school I get angry all the time and the way I relieve the stress is draw. I cary a sketch book around and when I get mad I draw things, and there not like psycho ish but not like ponies ether but something like a tree or a person covering there face with a hand and tattoos on the arm you know simple stuff you can get creative with it, I do it with anger problems at my house to, it works pretty well

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Originally Posted by bladerecon

Believe it or not, your attitude is affected by what you eat; mainly soy, corn and peanuts. So by cutting down on those foods you should see an improvement in your behavior. Also when you feel like you are going to lose your temper and beat the hell out of somebody, repeat the phrases, "I am sorry, forgive me, I love you, thank you" By repeating those over and over for a few minutes it will neutralize whatever is bothering you. In case you need extra proof Zero Limits

Hey, that is very interesting. Those 3 are food allergens. They can definitely mess you up. Not everyone allergic has the same tolerance. A lot of people can't even touch peanuts for example. Some people can actually get away with a handful of peanuts but I personally know someone who becomes violent. There is a difference though between a physical release and an emotional release. Therapy could be very very good but it's important to know that it does not mean you are crazy. Some people think that and it is not true. Although foods can affect moods, there could very well be other underlying issues. No one is perfect. The suggestions so far are great but after all, we are all just human. You say you felt bad and that's a good thing that you have remorse. You also say it felt good probably because it was a quick fix so to speak and you released the anger.

Blader, thanks for link. I saved it. It seems worth looking into.

My partner was the same when he was in high school. He threw a teacher up against a wall :eek:

He still has a few anger issues today but he has certainly calmed down a lot since then...

Try meditation...
You don't have to do the whole cross legs and humm crap... just find your own style.
Close your eyes and breathe deeply while counting to 5 every time you get angry works well.
It doesn't sound like long but it is enough for you to clear your head and calm yourself down.

Another thing you can try is to keep a journal/notebook of some kind.

When you feel the anger coming on, start writing. Where you are, what is the situation, how you are feeling (anxious, nervous, impatient, etc.), what you anticipate to be an outcome if you don't control your anger.

Try to see the situation as though you were looking in from the outside, and be as objective as possible.

Even write out that if you could, you'd pop somebody in the nose, or toss that person out a window etc. Get the feelings written out on paper. By the time you are fnished writing it out, the anger will have subsided, and you will have dealt with that emotion, and kept it where it belongs- inactive.