Hey every one I'm in a bit of a delema
I'm 16 and there's a girl who I have some pretty strong feelings for. But however she has a boyfriend, and I can tell she's not happy with him, while we talk about everything he is getting stoned or drunk with his mates, and a little while ago at the local hang out spot were all the kids go after school to catch up, I lit up a smoke and she came around the corner she ran up and jumped on me and we hugged and her boyfriend came up and he tried to start a fight over me hugging his girlfriend whitch is understanderble ( but I hug all my friends that are girls ) but he after that he asked me for a smoke, so I gave him one and he threw a punch at me, it was a clumsy punch and I deflected it but ever since then this girl and I have become so much closer and I feel as though she has some feelings towards me but I've already told her I liked her and every minute I spend with her ill cherish and all that crap like I think about her every second whitch is all true, does any one think I should make a move on her while were so close or should I wait till she is out of the relationship.

Well maybe just be honest with her and ask if she would be interested in seeing you further than a friendship. Good luck sounds like you really like this girl.

It sounds like a pretty volatile situation and would be best if you didn't do anything to aggravate it. The bottom line is she's involved with this guy so she is not available to you. It doesn't matter if he seems like a jerk.

There's nothing wrong with being a friend but at the same time you may need to distance yourself a bit. Let her make up her mind and hope that she will soon realize that he's not good for her. Until then, it's best that you stay out of it and let her make her own decision.

She most like being treated wrong because if she didn't she wouldn't stay with him.

So she can complaint about him all she wants and believe me that is all she is going do. Don't get caught up in her drama.

Also, her boyfriend has already tried to fight you so what do you think would happen if you confess your feelings towards her?

Btw, why is everyone getting stoned and drunked? Stay away from this hang out spot. I see nothing but trouble.

They don't get stoned and drunk at this spot but every weekend he goes out and gets drunk, stoned or even both, and I've already told her I got a bit of a thing for her and she was cool with it

Brother, you seem confused. Not about her, but about you...

Yep, cats out of the bag. "...every minute i spend with her ill cherish and all that crap..."- you

What do you mean, "crap"? If that is crap to you then stop saying it, because that's a rather... sh_ty thing to do. XD hehe, sorry, I couldn't resist. But seriously not cool. Your feelings for her are strong, but why? What is so special about her? She is one of billions, as is any one else. She has a BF, they are struggling, and should they split, you don't want to be the rebound or what's it called when they stay with you because you are there at that time, but then they leave you for some one else when they sense better greener grass?

Let her and him be, because if he was all that bad, wouldn't she have been smart enough to leave him? (IM not calling her stupid or anything, but I'm curious why she'd be with a guy she doesn't like or maybe even love?)

Focus on your life, and let her sort out what's in her bed. She made it now she has to sleep in it, and hope fully she will kick other guy, as he sounds like a binge drug abuser, out and fix it again.

Best of luck to you bro.

P.s. You may consider quiting smoking as it's kind of the same as any other drug?

When I mean crap I don't mean as though its crap I meant it as in all that stuff that I cuddnt be bothered typing and.
And I don't no what's so special about her but every time I think about something I would think about how good it would be if she was here with me just to do something together. Something just went boom in my head when I met her.

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Originally Posted by HrvSavag3r

when i mean crap i dont mean as though its crap i ment it as in all that stuff that i cuddnt be bothered typing and.
and i dont no whats so special about her but every time i think about something i would think about how good it would be if she was here with me just to do something together. something just went boom in my head when i met her.

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It's hard, but unless she decides that she doesn't like that guy all by her self, then you and her will not come to pass.

Then again, the future is a wonderous place where possibilities are endless. Give it time and who knows, maybe she will come to be with you. But in the mean time, let them be and give her space, you don't have to ignore her entirely, but it would be wise to keep meetings hugless, and light.

Peace and kindness be with you brother.

Thanks for your help mate.

She's having a fight with her boyfriend now whitch is good but bad I guess and I think their on the verge of spliting. Ima just support her through it, :) thought id update :)

That's kind of good and bad to hear lol

Don't push yourself on her, be a afriend and support her through this hard time.
She will come to you if she wants a relationship.
You don't want to be the re-bound guy :)

Honestly she probably scared of this guy she don't know how to say its over... but if she treats you like she does she must have a attraction she probably likes you cause you actually care unlike some guys... I say take the risk and tell her how you feel maybe that's all it will take for her to tell him to off! And be with you!! :)

I know you don't want to hear this, but I'm still advising you be cautious about this. She may through herself at you in some desperate act to find security/comfort, she will have to face the music one day or another, better now than later.

Be sure that she is ready for a relationship, other wise you are just going to be carring on with her previous issues, and being compared to her last. That can get old real fast.

What ever happens, do try to have fun and enjoy what you have.

Peace and kindness be with you.