Can he get this? He says that even though his girlfriend use to see and hear things but that it has been years ago and that she is fine now. I know that she has a five month old baby that she breastfeed so she is not taking all of her meds, which really bothers me. He thinks that because she has a baby that it would prove to the court that she is capable of taking care of children. There is no child visitation order for our daughter but I told him that if ever leaves her alone with his girlfriend that I won't let her go back. I don't know what legal rights he has with living with someone like that. Can he get joint custody and can he force me to let this woman takes care of my child. She get social security for being bipolar so how healthy can she be?

Yes, he can apply for and possibly get joint custody and unless you can PROVE that this woman is a danger to your child, her medical condition has no bearing on the case at all. Her being bipolar is not proof. Be prepared to show police reports where she harmed a child or you are pretty much out of luck.

Most likely though, her fitness will not play into the custody hearing, should he pursue it.

Hi, my partner has bi polar and he has five kids of his own, 2 adopted and three step children, all of which he is a proper dad to. Being bi polar, even with limited meds, does not mean she is a danger to your child and will not cause the courts to limit visitation unless you can prove she is a threat, and her doctors agree with you. My partner also gets social security for his condition, its not about health from that respect at all. As long as she is deemed fit enough to take care of her own child, she won't be considered unfit to help care for yours. If you tried to use that through the courts you will really alienate yourself. His legal rights won't be affected at all.

May I suggest you read up on Bi Polar Disorder as the insight gained might just relieve any fears you have. Unless he is completely incompetent or a danger to your child, your ex has every right to see his child and have her stay over. Do some research, it can't hurt. Consider meeting with her. If my child was staying over with someone I would want to meet them and learn something about them for myself.

Hey I am a bi polar mom who thank you very much raised her children by herself! My children knew about my illness and still love me very much. They are no axe murders or anything like that. No teen pregnancies either! Just because someone is Bi Polar does not mean they are unfit! That is just like saying he can't have your child because his girlfriend is black!