I made a horrible mistake, after the loss of my dad, I let an old boyfriend move in with me. (at my dad's house - dad left it to me) I believed my boyfriend when he said he had changed. He lost his dad right after mine. I thought he understood how bad I felt. He was, he said a recovering crackhead. He is not! I found him hiding smoking. He has us in a horrible money situation, which he is taking care of now. The problem is that he is stealing me blind. My carnote is 2 behind but he said he will take care of it tomorrow. He lies to me every minute. He refuses to leave. He took my car apart the other night because I would not take him to get drugs. I know you will say to call the police and report him, but his mom wouldn't be able to handle that since her husbands death. I need for him to take care of the bills. I don't work (had to quit so I was here if he was) I sleep with my purse, I have to hide everything of value. I have no friends left and I can't get help from my family since I let him come back. I can't even think straight anymore. Any ideas?

He is a crackhead, that isn't good, get rid of him and calling the cops might be your best option.

He is a mess and will continue to be one. Protect yourself and I guarantee his mom would understand.

Again having a crackhead as a boyfriend isn't good and you see that. You shouldn't be living like this you deserve a life and your life will be so best better without him.

You can change him only rehab can but he has to make to change. Any addict can change if they want to.

Do what is best for you and if anything let his family worry about him.

For one, I would KICK him out since it's your house. We all make mistakes and hopefully you've learned that someone that said they 'changed' needs to prove it to make any kind of rational decisions.

Who cares about what his mom's going to think, HER SON is stealing from you, trashing your car, lying to you, refuses to leave and IS A CRACK HEAD.

Stop thinking about other peoples feelings and start thinking about your life. If he's that bad, he deserves to be kicked out in the street.

You came here and pretty much gave yourself an answer. Call the police because he is ruining your life. Don't ever let someone ruin your life.

Call the police, as it will get worse, until you get him thrown out.

Definitely call the police NOW.

Tell them you want him and his drugs removed from your home.

Why is his mother's feelings more important than yours!!

Get rid of this parasite.

You know a drug addict is lying if their mouth is moving.

You are very fortunate your father left you his home. Think of him. This crack head is ruining HIS home and his daughter's life.

He is not going to leave if you tell him. His mother can't make him do anything.

The police will be the only safe way to remove him, his personal belongings and all the drugs.

Also, get yourself tested for STD's. Crack heads use needles, too.

There isn't much you can do other than call the cops. Don't think about other people right now because you can't afford to. I have dealt with addicts before, and they will take everything, and I mean everything you have. As a cop I also know that it's the best way to do it. If you think too much about his mum and how it will affect her, you will have nothing left

Call the police. Call the police. Call the police.

Get it? Get a restraining order against him, if you're afraid once he moves out.

Who cares about his mother - Let him move in with her and she can deal with this creep.

Think of yourself - what is his addiction and his presence in your house doing to you? You're not working, your family obviously objects and you've got no money.

Don't kid yourself - he won't take care of the bills.

Addiction to crack is serious - get him out of your house before he starts to become physically abusive.

Have you called the cops yet?

If not, there's really no other suggestions we can give you (that will make things better).

1. you should call the police! I Honestly can't see any other solution to this!

2. Don't care about his mothers feelings, your sole responsibility is YOUR feelings and NOBODY else's!

3. He won't pay bills and he will most likely NOT get better!

The thing that is important to remember about adicts; they love their highs more than anything and some will go to extreme lengths to get it... as you have experienced; steel from the people they know, love... the people who are there for them... it doesn't matter. Your stuff is accessible to him = easy to take. And you should call the cops. You have no responsibility for this man!