Hey! I really need your help so I'm 15 years old : I still love my EX boyfriend I love him more than ever ( well he's my first love so it's impossible to forget him ) he's from my class he broke up with me because he said that I was too shy: maybe that's true... any way after 3 days of our braking up he already had a new girlfriend and she's also from the same class of mine and I'm obliged to see them always kissing and hugging.. It was very horrible I even sometimes don't go to school in addition to not see them together... any way finally she broke up with him... so his single again and I want him back but he refuse even to talk to me he act like I don't excite in the class :( even one day our teacher sit us together he begged someone else to take his place ( he maybe hate me :((( ) and I'm too shy so I can't tell him how I fell but I really love him I really do and I want him back I even cry every day because of him I want him back but I don't know how help I'm really desperate! :(

Honey, why do you want a boy who wants to change who you are? If your personality is to be shy, that's OK! He shouldn't be asking you to change. That's wrong.

You should want a boy who likes you for who you are. Someone who supports you and wants to sit by you. Someone who laughs at your jokes and wants to take care of you.

At this point in your life, you have to realize that people are going to want you to be something you're not, like things you don't, do things you don't want to do, and become different than you are. These people are not the people that you want to hang out with.

Be secure with who you are - shy or not.

Don't fall for a boy who tries to change you... or someday down the line, you'll fall for a boy who wants you to sleep with him when you don't want to.

There are awesome boys out there who will notice you and like you for YOU, not for what they want you to be. :)

You are desperate and obsessed and young.

We have all been there, but the facts are, you first love you aren't going to forget and it isn't your most important love.

Learn from your experience, but you have to find a way to let go. You can't make people want to be with you, but you can be a person people want to be with. It's all up to you.

First, find out the things you like to do that are all about you and not random guys. Find out who you are. When you know who you are and what you want then you will find and attract guys that will see past that shy girl to the girl inside.

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I finally decided to get over my EX even thought he's my first but he seems to get over me add to that he dumped me because he said that I was too shy... plus he love already some other girl but the important and fortunately he's from the same class of mine so I have to face him every day and every day I see him ,I remember our relationship and what makes me suffer more and more is seeing him suffer over another girl that don't seems interesting to him but I still love him and I don't want to suffer more I want to get over him but fortunately I can't see that happen... I'm desperate... help!!

Sadly you can't forget.

However, what you can do is keep yourself busy and find support here on AMHD.

It would be tough to get over someone who is in your life almost daily-- but cheer up school is almost over.

When did this break up happen?

Sarah

You won't ever forget, but you will heal. Just give it time and stay on No Contact. Read the FAQs and Rules thread about how to conduct during it. It helped me out so much, and I worked with my ex

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You won't ever forget, but you will heal. Just give it time and stay on No Contact. Read the FAQs and Rules thread about how to conduct during it. It helped me out so much, and I worked with my ex

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Silly Rome. The OP sees the ex on a daily basis. It can be hard to do NC.

However here is a list of things to do after a breakup. Makes the healing process a lot faster in my opinion.

List of Things To Do After a Breakup

Sarah

Lol Sarah, yep so hard!

Like we haven't heard this excuse 15 Hundred times

Breakups happen. This may be your first but it probably won't be your last.

It is hard, but we've all been there and survived.

Just get busy with something else, take care of you, forget about him.

High school romances hardly ever last.

Good luck.

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Originally Posted by Altenweg

Breakups happen. This may be your first but it probably won't be your last.

It is hard, but we've all been there and survived.

Just get busy with something else, take care of you, forget about him.

Highschool romances hardly ever last.

Good luck.

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Oh yes they do! Look at Zach and Kelly from Saved By The Bell!

They lasted, and the people in the Notebook! You know my high school girlfriend will be the one I marry and spend my life with, she just has to be! There's no one else

::Stomps feet on ground and crosses arms::

I married my high school and it worked out great!


The divorce part I mean...

Sarah

Well it seems that you like him or should I say you love him lots. I appreciete that after so much of upfront betrayal by him you still reserve a soft center for him. You say you want to forget him I know its hard but POSSIBLE. Next time you enter the class have some company which can keep you engaged through out. Concentrate more on your studies, set targets for yourself. Do always what you wanted to do the most when he was with you and could"nt do it. I know its strange but flirt with other boys it will help and remember you can forget him because they say everything can be HEALED WITH TIME.

To get back on topic -

Whenever you let someone become part of your life, it can be hard to go back to what you used to have alone. However, the best way to deal with this is to find the things you like about your life and bring them out. If you can't find anything, then try new things! Keep yourself busy (not to where you're exhausted), and you will eventually think of your ex less and less.

I don't think anyone ever completely forgets a former loved one. However, what you should strive for is being able to think about the ex without it hurting anymore. The only real way for this to happen is to be happy with yourself and your own life ;)

~ Tee

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I want to have a little communication with my Ex I still love him but I think that friendship would satisfied me for the moment because the school is almost over and his from the same class of mine and I'm afraid that I will never see him in the summer and the hardest thing that we don't even talk together so I want some tips about how can I be a his best friend and it's hard because he's ignoring me I want some tips how can I make a communication with him

If he's ignoring you, then it's best if you respect his wishes. I wouldn't do the friends thing, you won't be able to handle hearing about how he is seeing other girls, which will only continue to hurt you. I suggest you use this time to go find a hobby or something else to occupy your time.

Leave him alone, as he doesn't want you as a best friend.