So.. if any guys out there (or girls) want to help me out and give me some insight to my situation, that would be great. Here is goes, So I met this guy a month ago or so while I was out with my friends. He asked for my number so I gave it to him. We started talking on the phone for a while and it took him a few weeks to actually ask me out (in a way I kind of asked him out) but anyway... we had a great time on our date and the following weekend I went over to his house for dinner and a movie night. It was great except he didn't touch me at all. No cuddling, no hand holding, nothing. At the end of the night I was really hoping he would kiss me, however all I got was a hug. I know he is into me because he calls me almost everyday and we talk for a while. But, he hasn't asked me out again. I don't know if he is scared, or nervous or what? I really want to see him again, should I just ask him to hang out? Also.. what's up with the no kiss thing, I'm all about morals and such but after the second date I was expecting at least a peck. Hmmm... what to do?? :confused:

I don't know how old you are but the first thing to remember about people is, that we're all different.

Firstly, stop with the expectations. So he didn't give you a hug/kiss. You've only met him twice. Perhaps next time you can give him a hug.

Secondly, take it slowly for Christ's sake! Get to know each other. Enjoy talking to him, enjoy his company, have some fun.

Give the poor guy a break. Don't rush anything, just see what happens.

Maybe he wants to get to know you first and not rush into anything, all you have to do is act like it doesn't bother you, maybe he just wants to see if you're decent and girlfriend material

I am 23 years old and he is 26

He sounds really really shy. It does sound like he's interested in you though or else he wouldn't call you so often.

I think that he also lacks experience. So even if you start dating him, it sounds like you're going to be his guide. Are you prepared for that?

I don't know if he is scared, or nervous or what?

All of the above and inexperienced too, so go slow, let him get comfortable, AND BE PATIENT WITH THE GUY. Whats the hurry?

I really want to see him again, should I just ask him to hang out?

YES, definitely, he will probably be relived and encouraged. Just go slow with him.

I think that he's probably just really shy. Some guys don't like to move too fast. He might be nervous and not sure how you would respond if he came on "too strong" but good luck :)

Maybe he's shy..

Maybe he's taking things slow...

Or,

Maybe he's showing a great amount of respect for you.

If I was seeing someone casually, I would not make the first move on things because I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable. That's just me. If you make the first move, that wouldn't be a bad idea. Even so, if he feels comfortable enough to hug or kiss you, he will do it. I see this as him being respectful of you and your comfort.

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The third date with this guy I am seeing went really well, great conversation, laughing and flirting with eyes, but I don't think he touched me the whole time we were out to dinner. After we were done eating I suggusted that we run next door to a bar and grab a drink. He thought about it for a few minutes and said he had to wake up early, (to be at his parent's for mother's day) so kindly declined. He walked me to my car, and I was expecting (and hoping) for a kiss, but no kiss, actually what he gave me was kind of a pathetic excuse for a hug. WHY?? I think he's into me, I mean we have been on 3 dates and talk frequently on the phone, we haven't really had the talk about expectations or past relationships yet so I am not sure his current dating situation (besides me of course) Am I wasting my time, I want to know what's in this man's head. HELP please!!

Have you tried to kiss him?

Chivalry isn't dead but some guys do like girls to make the first move.

Your ages would be helpful in answering this question.

You don't seem to know much about his past, such as is he coming off a bad breakup, divorce, etc. That might explain why he wants to take things slow.

It could be he's shy, not into you, not confident in himself... many things.

I did make the first move in my present relationship because I sensed he was nervous. We've both been divorced so I think he was rusty...

Don't give up yet. Go out again and this time... do some touching and start asking those questions, nothing wrong with showing an interest in who he is and where he's been and where he's going! Good luck

26, and 23 are their ages, and its telling that your driving yourself crazy over this, as maybe he is being reserved to get to know you, and see if your worth kissing.

Many guys want to know a female well, before getting into the mushy stuff, and have that cloud their judgment.

If your ready to give up, because he is not kissing, or cuddling, it may be you, who is not ready for him.

He is being respectful. Have you never been respected before? Don't make this an issue, as this is a chance to know someone well, before you get blinded by the physical stuff.

I agree with Tal.

You barely know each other.

He sounds like a perfect gentleman, the kind of guy I'd want to be on a date with. He's waiting for an emotional connection --not a physical one. This is a good sign, certainly not a red flag.

Sounds like he's interested in YOU; and not a makeout session with a random stranger.

Get to know each other and if feelings develop and emotions get involved, then the kissing and hugging will be real, not just a physical need.

You might have yourself a real catch if you just take it for what it is---two people getting to know each other and enjoying each other's company. Being physically affectionate will happen naturally as you become closer.

Enjoy this time. Anticipation is half the fun.

Slow and steady wins the race.

Maybe your past dates have moved too fast and that's why this feels "off" to you, but I assure you, it sounds just fine.