How I can have my life back ?
I'm a stay home mom whit four children , and my husband is an active duty /military/ guy. He loves his job , and gone all the time . I understand he have to travel a lot , because of his job , but I do not understand why he makes more trip and gone more than he truly have to . He never want to go with me any where , and it is hurting me , because I feel I don't have a life. Before I married him I'm was a fun person , and I had a lots of friends. Now I don't have any , and all I'm doing stay home whit the kids . I'm very sad , I asked my husband this year please surprise me on are anniversary (I don't want gift , or expensive stuff) he didn't .
He told me he loves me and , he don't want to go any where , he want I go in the kitchen and cook .
When I asked him why we are not celebrating , he told me it is my fault because I don't like any thing from him . What can I do , I tried please him to do things what he want , and listening him .
The problem is I feel it is all about him , and I'm not sure I can live like that . I tried to tell him how I feel , but things just got worse after that . Thank you for any help.
My husband dos a lots of wrong things to me : Not coming to my birthday party , he rented a porno movie and had his private fun . He also told me he went to a stripper bar .
I can not tell how many time he turned me down... I'm not ugly , I can have a lots of man if I want to . I want my husband , but I don't think he wants me .
Hello,
My hubby and I got married in Europe ,long time ago (10-years) ! I left my home and family , friends for him .
I brought in this marriage two children, and we have two little one('s) together. He likes to buying me things , cars, nice house , he works hard, and gone a lot . I stay home whit the little one's and truly respect the hard work my husband done (gave) for he's family. I'm not a material person , I don't care about stuff...
Many people things European woman are not emancipated . I think my husband one of them .
We have (had) stopped having contact , whit other couples because of the wife's are criticizing my husband.
I have (had) stud up for my husband many time, and gave the perfect picture...
The truth is , we are fight(ing) all the time , and we stayed together for the kids.
My husband broke all the rules , from the very first time we got here in America. I had (have) a feeling I'm was tricked , and no way out . He was yelling at me , blackmail me , and disrespect me .
People who know what going on in are life couldn't understand why I'm not living him .
I did try , he asked me to stay and swear he will change for me... ( I don't want he change for me , I want he change because he be live this is the right thinks to do ) .
He made me to move many times , and I never had a chance to make friends , I live a lonely life .
I don't want to be wailing (crying) of my life , I just want to be happy . I'm the only one who can help for myself . I'm asking you Ladies and Gentleman if you are in my shoes , what you do as an American , I know it is silly but I have know idea how other people live they life,. what am' I doing wrong ?
Am' I right it is not normal we have no friends! As a couple we do things whit other people as well , not only with the people who work with my husband . I'm afraid to talk about this thinks , I'm acting like life is normal that way , my husband said it is normal and I don't know but I think he lying to me so I don't ask for different . I tried marriage counseling, and other things...
Thank you with all my regard .