OK.. so I'm dating this guy, who is.. well with out sounding cheesy, we are a perfect match. In my other relationships I have this really nasty habit of getting clingy... but when I try not to be clingy I come off as cold. Ive not had a problem with either of those things in this relationship, and he put allot on the line asking me out in the first place (we have a nasty 3 year age gap witch makes him an adult and me a kid in legal eyes) but I'm still a little nervous, I'm not sure how to function in a relationship that's lasted longer then the previous... I guess the best thing is to go with the flow, but I need a little more direction then that, I'm an anxious person so in reality there is probably nothing to worry about.. but.. yeah


Xo Rose

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Originally Posted by RoseMortem

ok..so im dating this guy, who is ..well with out sounding cheesy, we are a perfect match. in my other relationships i have this really nasty habit of getting clingy...but when i try not to be clingy i come off as cold. Ive not had a problem with either of those things in this relationship, and he put allot on the line asking me out in the first place (we have a nasty 3 year age gap witch makes him an adult n me a kid in legal eyes) but im still a little nervous, im not sure how to function in a relationship thats lasted longer then the previous...i guess the best thing is to go with the flow, but i need a little more direction then that, im an anxious person so in reality there is probably nothing to worry about..but..yeah


xo Rose

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I think it's more than just a "nasty 3 year age gap"
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Slow down. You are 16 years old. There is no need to try to be so serious righ now. He is an adult and yes, you are a kid. So stop rushing to grow up.

I agree with Niko.
I dated someone who was 3 a bit years younger than I was, but we were 17 and 14, so the whole age thing wasn't a big deal. But, what I found wrong with such a large age gap is the interests of the younger person to be overly childish. As in, I would be into movies with deep meanings like "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" or "Requiem for a Dream" and they would still be on movies like "Pirate's of the Caribbean". I am not saying that those movies are bad, in any way, just that they would not be into watching those deep, emotional movies. Also, Since I live in Quebec and the drinking age is only 18 here, I found that I was being a bad influence on her, towards drinking, even though I don't do it much.
So, yes, you need to grow up and experience life for what it is, not what someone, who is grown up, tells you. We live our lives to better ourselves when we are disappoint.
Try dating someone who is closer to your age group, and get to know them a bit first. Like ask them what their parents do, or what are their future goals in life, stuff that could have connections to your own life. I am currently doing this and it is a much much appropriate approach to having a relationship with someone, rather than just saying "I like you" off the bat.

I don't remember asking not to be taken seriously because of my age. I may be sixteen/seventeen and Im fully aware I come off as extremely juvenile in this forum but I came here for advice, I did not expect I would have to defend my credibility and maturity level! My own mother refers to me as twenty because of my maturity level and she is not one to comment on people lightly. I have lived aspects of my life far beyond my years. Im not even going to begin to go into that. So either help me or not but DO NOT patronise me

Hey rose maybe you want to try taking things slighty slow ova here because 1st of all your age gal. dun worry bt the gap it hardly take an effect in your case in fact it's good to have a gap if you would ask me. Ermmm well love is a very tricky game. It is very difficult to get the right person. But do remember before you get the good apple you would have to pass a few bad apples. Well just remember to take thingd slow. Even I fell in love when I was 16 it lasted me fro 2 yrs 7 months n 1 day and the scar also is with me till this day even though it's been more then 3 yrs since the break up nw. this is your age to have many friends and enjoy so dun waste is OK. Chresss.

geethapandian88, thanks for your adivce, it means a lot. Rock on :-)