Marriage without sex, is it over?
Marriage without sex, is it over?
I have no interest in having sex with my husband, ever! We have been together for 10 years, married for 3. I am 32 years old.
THis started about 4 years ago and I thought it was my weight, lost the weight. Thought it was my birth control, changed that. I saw a dr and everything. I have ZERO sexual I libido. Since I rarely have sex, when we do (I am often drunk) and it hurts.
When my husband asks (begs) for sex I have to remind myself not to sign and make a face. It is now to the point, every couple weeks I lay next to him while he masturbates and kiss his neck and face. That is such a pain. I just don't like him touching me at all. Keep in mind, I have not cheated on him and I don't have desires to have anyone else touch me either.
He goes between saying sex isn't everything in a marriage, then he will say normal marriages don't function like this. When I do turn him down you can clearly see the frustraion and upset in his face. Sometimes he will then even ignore me or be cold to me for the next day or so.
Once the sex goes, is the marriage doomed? This is not the only issue our marriage has but prob the biggest. I am considering divorce, I feel like I am hurting a good man who deserves more than an occasional handjob. Any advice is welcome.