She admits after running into her ex she still loves him but doesn't want to be with him.. We have been seeing one another for only 4months they dated for 3yrs and he cheated. We aren't together now and I've said its best we don't talk. Am I being rationale? She says it wouldn't be fair to be with me when she still loves someone else

It seems like you both agree that it is best not to be together right now. That doesn't mean that you can't talk to her. It doesn't seem like you two have broken up, just taking time apart. I think your girlfriend needs to sort out her feelings. She said she still loves her ex but doesn't want to be with him. Love is not a feeling that you can turn on and off. Wanting to be with someone is a feeling that can be turned on and off. She hasn't said she doesn't love you.

If she still has feelings for her ex, she would not be able to develop any for you until she gets over it. It is a good idea to stay wawy from her to let her sort that out for herself, and to prevent you from getting let down.

It's better that you are not together. She's right, it's not fair to you to be together if she has feelings for someone else. She's really confused about her feelings and you should stay away, at least until she sorts it all out.

I don't think this girl is confused. She blew you off because she admits she is in love with someone else... Move on...

Both of you did the right thing so move forward and be glad this happen now rather than down the road when your feelings for her would have turned into love.

You are being rational and it seems she was at least being honest with you. Now you can move on. Don't linger hoping anything... just move on. What she told you is fair- you don't want to be with someone who admits to still being in love with another.

Be appreciative of her honesty and move forward.