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  • May 2, 2009, 04:02 PM
    DjZskittzoh
    Seeing my child legally
    Hi, my name is Daniel. I have a three month old baby girl to my ex partner. She has recently hurt me and my whole family by going and getting my daughter baptized without even telling me. I very rarely get to see the child and Im wanting to take the whole thing to court. But the thing is, I don't know how I'm supposed to prove I have done nothing wrong because she will try everything to stop me having access. She is known as a really big liar and she has the support of her friends and family even if what she says is not true. I just want to be able to have proper legal access to my daughter. And I am not prepared to walk away from my child. I will fight her mother through court to the death if I have to. Please help me. Im only seventeen. I just want this all sorted as soon as possible. Please reply ASAP. Thank you.
  • May 2, 2009, 04:34 PM
    knightp
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by DjZskittzoh View Post
    Hi, my name is Daniel. I have a three month old baby girl to my ex partner. She has recently hurt me and my whole family by going and getting my daughter baptized without even telling me. I very rarely get to see the child and Im wanting to take the whole thing to court. But the thing is, I dont know how im supposed to prove I have done nothing wrong because she will try everything to stop me having access. She is known as a really big liar and she has the support of her friends and family even if what she says is not true. I just want to be able to have proper legal access to my daughter. And I am not prepared to walk away from my child. I will fight her mother through court to the death if I have to. Please help me. Im only seventeen. I just want this all sorted as soon as possible. Please reply ASAP. Thank you.
    Just make sure that you request visitation and joint custody, because that's not included in your child support case paying support for the child. You should be the one to open up the case against her and not the other way around. At least that way you are letting them that you want what's best & you want to be a part of your daughters life as well.
  • May 2, 2009, 04:37 PM
    DjZskittzoh
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by knightp View Post
    Just make sure that you request visitation and joint custody, because that's not included in your child support case paying support for the child. You should be the one to open up the case against her and not the other way around. At least that way you are letting them that you want whats best & you want to be a part of your daughters life as well.

    Well I do intend to the case but what if she starts coming off with things that are not true about me. Because her friends and her family will agree with her and support her on what she says even she is lying.
  • May 2, 2009, 04:40 PM
    cdad
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by DjZskittzoh View Post
    Hi, my name is Daniel. I have a three month old baby girl to my ex partner. She has recently hurt me and my whole family by going and getting my daughter baptized without even telling me. I very rarely get to see the child and Im wanting to take the whole thing to court. But the thing is, I dont know how im supposed to prove I have done nothing wrong because she will try everything to stop me having access. She is known as a really big liar and she has the support of her friends and family even if what she says is not true. I just want to be able to have proper legal access to my daughter. And I am not prepared to walk away from my child. I will fight her mother through court to the death if I have to. Please help me. Im only seventeen. I just want this all sorted as soon as possible. Please reply ASAP. Thank you.
    You are going to need a lawyer and your going to need to establish yourself as the legal father of the child. You can't do this without one because your 17. You need to ask for visitation and there will be an order for support too. Are you still in school ? Because of your age you may qualify for legal aid. What state is this in ?
  • May 2, 2009, 04:46 PM
    DjZskittzoh
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    Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    You are going to need a lawyer and your going to need to establish yourself as the legal father of the child. You can't do this without one because your 17. You need to ask for visitation and there will be an order for support too. Are you still in school ? Because of your age you may qualify for legal aid. What state is this in ?

    Im on the birth certificate if that helps. I left school last year. Its in Antrim in Northern Ireland
  • May 2, 2009, 05:04 PM
    cdad
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by DjZskittzoh View Post
    Im on the birth certificate if that helps. I left school last year. Its in Antrim in Northern Ireland
    This took forever but I did find it.

    Custody of children and unmarried couples-Information from CitizensInformation.ie

    You need to read things at this site. Plus it has numbers you can contact for help. The basics of it is that according to irish law because you were unwed at the time the mother gets full custody of the child. But you can apply for " access " ( i.e. visitation)
  • May 2, 2009, 05:27 PM
    DjZskittzoh
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    This took forever but I did find it.

    Custody of children and unmarried couples-Information from CitizensInformation.ie

    You need to read things at this site. Plus it has numbers you can contact for help. The basics of it is that according to irish law because you were unwed at the time the mother gets full custody of the child. But you can apply for " access " ( i.e. visitation)

    Thanks for helping me out. I really needed the advice. I really appreciate it.
  • May 2, 2009, 05:30 PM
    cdad
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by DjZskittzoh View Post
    Thanks for helping me out. I really needed the advice. I really appreciate it.
    We do what we can here. Please keep us posted. And best of luck to you.
  • May 2, 2009, 05:35 PM
    DjZskittzoh
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    We do what we can here. Please keep us posted. And best of luck to you.

    Ive just read through the site you gave me. I think it basically means I wouldn't get custody of the child but she can't stop me from having access to the child
  • May 2, 2009, 05:44 PM
    cdad
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by DjZskittzoh View Post
    Ive just read through the site you gave me. I think it basically means I wouldnt get custody of the child but she can't stop me from having access to the child
    That's correct in the way I read it too. And really that's what your looking for is access. The ability to participate in your child's life.
  • May 2, 2009, 05:52 PM
    DjZskittzoh
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    Thats correct in the way I read it too. And really thats what your looking for is access. The ability to participate in your childs life.

    Yeah. Well I can say I'm a lot less confused now after talking to you. I think Il be a lot more confident in taking this to a solicitor now. Il let you know what happens when I find out. Thanks

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