Married 3 years, together 9--he is no longer attracted
My husband and I have been together for 9 years. We have only been married for 3. I do not feel that he is sexually attracted to me anymore. We can go weeks without intercourse and it does not seem to phase him. I use to argue with him and get upset and hurt. Anymore, it does not seem worth arguing about.
We use to have a great sex life. Now it seems like the only time he is turned on is when he watches porn. I never had a problem with him watching it, until recently. I feel like he is turned on by what he sees, not by me. He does nothing but have sex when he gets to that point. There is no touching or kissing or playing. Just quick sex. I hate it.
I have gone through a lot of changes recently, trying to get him to notice. Even doing things that I do not enjoy much, but thought it would turn him on.
I need some advice, I need to know what to do. I love him terribly. We have a great marriage otherwise, but this is really starting to affect me...