In Dec 2007 my girlfriend of six years gave birth to our son. She was a severe drug addict. So when my son was born he ended up being hospitalized for six weeks. He is doing great. Anyway in April 2008 my girlfriend was put into rehab by court order. I took our son to see her until Aug. 2008 that is when she got a job on weekends. She was released from the program in Oct. 2008 and she went to a half way house. She would never come to visit but took our son every other weekend. Come to find out she had meet someone in rehab during sobriety meetings. (go figure) So here we are eight months later. I have physical custody of our son. But I love her and want her back. How do I go about gettting her back. I ask her to come back but she says she does not want to. I know she has feelings for me. Because when she sees me it is all smiles and her eyes sparkle. I know I am a fool for wanting her back. But I am desperate for some serious advice on how to get her back.

Until she says she wants you back there is really nothing you can do. There is no way to make someone come back to you. I think you and your son are way better off without her anyway from the way she seems.

I suggest counseling for you.

You are right you are a fool to want her back.

You are a fool for your son as well, as having an addict in his life will only offer him a roller coaster childhood.

Addicts should spend their first year not dating, it conflicts with their recovery. It is also highly against recovery to be dating another addict, but it is a bond that they probably share.

What are you doing to feel better about you?

Forget what you want at this time. Keep that addict away from your son, and make his life healthy, happy, and safe. When she gets healthy, then maybe you can talk, if she is willing. Until that happens, she is the least of your problems.