OK so I started talking to this guy I work with and I guess you could say we've been flirting he even got my number... :) but it turned out he had a girlfriend but we still talked and flirted... and it turns out that he ended up dumping his girlfriend at the beginning of this month... since that happened we've texted a whole lot more and he's around me more at work... for some reason a lot of people alos thought we were going out but we weren't even my close friend thought so but I told her no and I told him what my friend thought and he was like lets pretend like we are going out and see what she says... so we did for like a day and then told her it was a joke but we still joke around with each other and he'll be like all right girlfriend I'll text you later... :D and for a while I thought he was going to ask me out because at work he would like run his finger down my back and when I had to go outside he would stay out there with me for a while and before he left one day he called me over to his car and really only stood there like looking at each other and laughing... and well... I don't get it because sometime he won't reply to my texts like I hadn't seen or talked to him since Sunday and then yesterday on Thursday he texted me asking if I went to work that day and I was like.. "hell naw! do you?"... and he said.. "hell ya..im not lazy like u...when do you work?....and i said.."psh watever! Lol... 2morrow... y u miss me already? Lol"... but he didn't text me back.. it seems like once he knows what he wants to know he stops texting or something... why does he do this?
So I really can't tell if he's interested in more or just wants to be friends... I really want to know!! :confused:

You have already demonstrated to him from the beginning that you are a girl that will accept less, just his crumbs, by flirting and corresponding with him like you did when he had a girlfriend. That's why he's not putting forth any effort to ask you out and treat you like you are worth something to him. You have SHORT-TERM written all over your forehead and once a guy places you in that category, it's almost impossible to get out of it. He's not interested, sorry. I'm sure if you pursued it hard enough you could get him to sleep with you but then you'd just have a guy that you slept with that was acting uninterested again.

Path is right, sounds like you made it too easy for him. Change it up and play hard to get.

However, he did only break up with his girlfriend a month ago. I suggest you back off a bit. Let's make sure he's over his ex girlfriend and that you're not just his rebound.

Some people are flirts by nature. I have a friend like this and most females misread his actions.

The thing you need to realize is that he isn't your man so he doesn't have to be in contact with you everyday nor text you when you text him. Your getting too hook on this guy and this isn't good.

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Originally Posted by pathisfer

You have already demonstrated to him from the beginning that you are a girl that will accept less, just his crumbs, by flirting and corresponding with him like you did when he had a girlfriend. That's why he's not putting forth any effort to ask you out and treat you like you are worth something to him. You have SHORT-TERM written all over your forehead and once a guy places you in that category, it's almost impossible to get out of it. He's not interested, sorry. I'm sure if you pursued it hard enough you could get him to sleep with you but then you'd just have a guy that you slept with that was acting uninterested again.

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Kay I get everyone's point... but you got to understand that when I first started flirting with him I had no clue about his girlfriend and he took no initiative to tell me either his ex girlfriend was and is in the army... so I didn't find out till way later... and when I found out about her I did back off a bit... and about the texting I don't text him because if he wants to talk to me then he will text me rite! But whenever I see him he's like you never text me and I'm like well you can't text me or what... but he's always like dang you can't text no one or what...

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Originally Posted by gabbi321

kay i get everyones point....but u gotta understand that when i first started flirting with him i had no clue about his girlfriend and he took no initiative to tell me either his ex gf was and is in the army.........so i didnt find out till way later.....and when i found out about her i did back off a bit.........and about the texting i dont text him because if he wants to talk to me then he will text me rite! but whenever i see him he's like u never text me and im like well u can't text me or wat........but he's always like dang u can't text no one or wat.......

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Seems like he's not so serious and he just likes to play around to me. I wouldn't waste much time on this guy though. To many fishes out in the sea, go catch another one.:)