Ask Me Help Desk - Why am I not pregnant?

I don't know why I can't get pregnant. My husband and I got married young that was almost 10 yrs ago. All the girls of my generation all got married and most of then have kids right away other have kids later but everyone got pregnant but me. It makes me so depress when I think of it. We try going to see an infertility doctor, we've tried a couple of steps such as taking clomid, shots, & insemination but yet nothing work. The doctor says there is nothing wrong with us. My only concern is my irregular period. I took all kinds of meds to help but yet nothing work either. Can someone help? Suggestions? Ideas? Anything would help me.

Have you gotten a second opinion? Has your husband been tested as well?

Unfortunately, since we don't know your medical background, nor are we able to read lab reports, there is little we can do to help.

J9 is correct katheryn go and get another opinion cause your doc may have missed something that another may pick up on. I know a few friends that have had problems conceiving because of missed periods, they where diagnosed with pcos and had to get a specific treatment plan made for them and their specific needs.
Clomid alone is a great ovulation drug but what many doctors fail to realize is that clomid allows you to produce more eggs but IT THINS OUT THE WALL OF THE UTERUS so it becomes harder for the fertilize egg to implant in the uterine wall.
There are other drugs that also increase the egg production and keeps the lining of the uterus at a thickness that is more receptive for fertilization.Also did your doc do labs and blood-work to see your hormone levels, cause hormones play a big role in the production of eggs, i.e too much testosterone in a woman may cause the periods to be irregular and also lead to miscarriages or not being able to conceive.
I think you should see another doctor. Good luck and hang in there. I know its difficult to see others with their ever growing family. But you'll get their too.

Thanks both J_9 & lighterrr for the responses. After almost 10 years of marriage we have not gotten pregnant once so two years ago we finally went to see an infertility doctor, I guess we weren't physically tested. He was just tested for his sperm counts and I did a test (I forgot what is called) but a color dye in me to check if I have any clog anywhere in my tubes or uterus. I don't have any clog. Our next step would be IVF, since the doctors kept saything there is nothing wrong with us even our doctor didn't sugguest us, we probably will need to do the genetic testing before we start the IVF treatments. My mom had a lot of children and so was my husband's mom. We'll all clueless, what possibly went wrong and the doctors couldn't tell us anything positive either.

Each cycle of my treatments I do go to the clinic once every few day to go get my blood drawn for hormone testings.

When you were on the clomid and the injections, was it detemined if they produced ovulation or not? Have you been seen by more than one RE?

For some couples a reason doesn't get determined, but, I agree, do try another RE if you have only seen the one to get another opinion and discuss if there are any other tests for both of you that could still be done.
IVF, as you said, is always an option as well.

[QUOTE=MsKathryn;1706415]Thanks both J_9 & lighterrr for the responses. After almost 10 years of marriage we have not gotten pregnant once so two years ago we finally went to see an infertility doctor, I guess we weren't physically tested. He was just tested for his sperm counts and I did a test (I forgot what is called) but a color dye in me to check if I have any clog anywhere in my tubes or uterus. I don't have any clog. Our next step would be IVF, since the doctors kept saything there is nothing wrong with us even our doctor didn't sugguest us, we probably will need to do the genetic testing before we start the IVF treatments. My mom had a lot of children and so was my husband's mom. We'll all clueless, what possibly went wrong and the doctors couldn't tell us anything positive either.

Katheryn, I know its frustrating, but stay strong and some cases 11% of infertility is unknown. My cousin belongs to that group she has a 10 year old daughter and was trying for another child and has not been able to conceive again, Doc diagnosed her with secondary infertility. IVF is good but it does take a lot out of you financially, emotionally and mentally, but you should do your research on which doctor to see and undergo the treatment with. I want to let you know that I have met a few couples that went through IVF and the ones that had the best success, went through a process of IVF that is relatively knew but it has had great success. If differs from normal IVF where the egg is fertilized by the sperm in a peat rich dish with some of the mom's endometrial cells present. They say it helps the egg feel more at home so to speak when the egg is implanted back into the woman so pregnancy can occur. I am not sure if I can put the name of the clinic in the post or if it will be advertising, but you can Google it they have center’s all over the United States that do the same service.
Good luck katheryn, you’re not alone

Thanks a bunch guys for responding. It means a lot to me. I need all the help, comfort, info & suggestions. I felt so alone being the only person without children around my friends & family. When I'm with them all they talk about are life of being a mother, family & their children. There are always baby showers to go to every month, kids' birthday parties every other weekend. Supposedly when you attend these things you bring along your children. Since I have no children I no longer want to attend those parties. Everyone kept asking me when am I going to have a child I gave the same response to the same person who already asked me the question. Some people repeatedly ask me the same questions each time they see me. It made me so sad I don't even want to answer them anymore. Maybe they just say that to put me down, they probably don't feel sorry for me. It's not like I have a choice whether I want to have one or not. Children are god-given gift, people who have no problem of conceiving are taking advantage of the situation. I don't appreciate what they have.

Well I have only gone to see one doctor and supposedly this doctor that I see was supposed to be the best in this area. I've known a few people who also went the see different doctors from that same clinic too, one out of 3 had a successful pregnancy through IVF. I might have to go to a different doctor and run more tests before I start IVF.

Thanks lighterrr, you've been pretty helpful so far. What is that procedure called if it's differ from normal IVF?

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thanks a bunch guys for responding. it means a lot to me. i need all the help, comfort, info & suggestions. i felt so alone being the only person without children around my friends & family. when i'm with them all they talk about are life of being a mother, family & their children. there are always baby showers to go to every month, kids' birthday parties every other weekend. supposedly when you attend these things you bring along your children. since i have no children i no longer want to attend those parties. everyone kept asking me when am i going to have a child i gave the same response to the same person who already asked me the question. some people repeatedly ask me the same questions each time they see me. it made me so sad i don't even want to answer them anymore. maybe they just say that to put me down, they probably don't feel sorry for me. it's not like i have a choice whether i want to have one or not. children are god-given gift, people who have no problem of conceiving are taking advantage of the situation. i don't appreciate what they have.

well i have only gone to see one doctor and supposedly this doctor that i see was supposed to be the best in this area. i've known a few people who also went the see different doctors from that same clinic too, one out of 3 had a successful pregnancy through IVF. i might have to go to a different doctor and run more tests before i start IVF.

Thanks lighterrr, you've been pretty helpful so far. what is that procedure called if it's differ from normal IVF?

Hi Kathery,
Thanks for sharing and you are definitely not alone. Im sure a lot of women are reading these post and they are becoming inspired by you. The procedure that I was explaining is indeed IVF, they have just fined tuned a component of the procedure to increase the success rate. In this IVF procedure everything is done the same except when the eggs are retrieved endometrial cells from the uterus are also retrived, so when they are fertilized out side the womb they are still in familiar territory. Once the eggs are placed back into the woman they feel more at home so to speak. There are so many options available with IVF so take your time an find a good doctore that you are comforteble with and has a gret ivf track record.
Come back and visit us anytime online let us know how you are doing

Thanks lighterrr for the advice. I will definitely do so more research before I start doing IVF so I know what my options are to increase my chances. I really appreciate all your help.

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Thanks lighterrr for the advice. I will definately do so more research before I start doing IVF so I know what my options are to increase my chances. I really appreciate all your help.

You are most welcome and good luck