We have been on and off for three years.(broke up 3 Times) I never come back to him. He has always come back. Should I wait or fight this time? How do I keep him for good?

Depends. Did you cause the fight?

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How do I keep him for good?

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There are no guarantees in love.The best thing to do to insure that you stay together is to work on whatever issues you have with mutual respect and communication.

Relationships take work,the loving part is easy but keeping the love whole and healthy takes maturity and a willingness to work on your problems.

Had to spread the rep Artlady good answer and you beat me to that one.

If the two of you been on and off for 3 years then I must ask why? I must also ask you why do you put yourself through this because on and off against relationships are unhealthy and who needs this emotional rollercoaster ride, I don't.

Who cares if he initate communication. You said he also initate the break-ups.

You can't control him but you can control yourself so how many more times your going let him in?

Sometimes it is better to move on instead of keep going back to someone because they are familiar to us. And remember past behavior presents his future behaviour. So don't be a fool don't you know the saying "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me".

Hopefully you come back and elabrorate more on your situation.

How old are you and why all the break ups? Why do you keep taking him back? You know he will do it again. If a guy would rather break up, like a baby having a hissy fit, rather than talk and listen to solve the problem, then he is not relationship material. The bad part is, you put up with this immature behavior.

Why did you break up the first 3 times. Is it because of the same reasons? There's no point getting back together if you haven't fixed the problems from the first 3 times.

The problem with on and off relationships is the insecurity. You don't know when's the next time you will break up again. There's already a lack of trust.

It's a huge uphill battle to regain the trust and security. Are both of you ready for it?

As already said, getting back together makes no sense unless the real root causes of the breakup is addressed.

You can like, even love, someone you just cannot be with if you cannot solve the issues that are at the real cause of the problem... and often, the issue of a fight isn't the real issue of the breakup, its just a part of the overall problem.

So...

You don't offer any real details about your relationship. What is good or bad about it. Why the breakups. Age. Experience (how many relationships before). etc.

So... he comes back to you. Why do you take him back? Miss the security of the known? Think he has changed? Or you've changed?

More info please...