There was this guy I dated for 14 months we broke up many times but we were in love a lot. We made things work anyway and he would always promise to change since he was the one usually breaking up. It takes him 6 months to tell me he loved me. Now he says he doesn't love me anymore and likes someone else so he doesn't want to work it out and also says what we had never was love which really hurt me. He really likes her and now in a few weeks loves her. How do I cope with that? Even I was thinking of breaking up with him but I keep regreting now have done it because I am so hurt now. And its kind of an ego issue now too because (sorry if I sound concieted) but I'm really pretty and he's not atractive at all. So all this bugs me about what he was thinking when he did that and it keeps haunting me. I'm really hurt. What should I do? Please no sarcasm. =(

I feel for you. 14 months is a short period and it should be fun. Now you've seen his true colors, get out. You're not married what's the point of getting over this?

Yea, its just this was my first, and after all we have been through I guess I'm just surprised that he would hurt me like that with someone else after all the promises. And also the fact that he was inconsiderate in breaking up because he was just so blunt and acted like he didn't care even though he said he did. I just expected more from him that just how he broke up with me.

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yea, its just this was my first, and after all we have been through i guess I'm just suprised that he would hurt me like that with someone else after all the promises. And also the fact that he was inconsiderate in breaking up because he was just so blunt and acted like he didn't care even though he said he did. I just expected more from him that just how he broke up with me.

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Obviously, he doesn't care as much you do. If he's that in love he wouldn't cheat on you in the first place. Love shouldn't hurt like this.

It took me 3 years to get over my first BF and it the darkest part of my life. But I'm proud of myself, believe that time heals and everything happens for a reason. Overused but so true. Now, I got the best man in the whole wide world.

Forget what you feel and think what you deserve.

Also its been 3 months and I still find myself thinking about him all the time and how he hurt me. And how totally unfair it was after all the chances I gave him. I just wish he knew or an apology. Something to show he cared. But I guess that's too late now since I blocked him but I heard he's doing great which really bugs me.

Thanks =) I'm glad to know that I'd worked out for you. Wow 3 years though?that's what I'm afraid of I wish I could do it as soon as possible. But yea I just want to see karma get him. All I want is for him to realize. But I guess u cNt get everything u want. Thank you =)

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Also its been 3 months and I still find myself thinking about him all the time and how he hurt me. And how totaly unfair it was after all the chances I gave him. I just wish he knew or an apology. Something to show he cared. But I guess that's too late now since I blocked him but I heard he's doing great which really bugs me.

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Then show you're a lot better without him. This is for yourself and not for anyone else. Good in blocking him out. You had enough. This shall pass. You know time flies so don't waste it. It's understood you're feeling this way now but just keep yourself occupied. If you don't do anything, you'll only kill yourself thinking. We don't even know if he thinks about you.

You have to let go and really accept it is over. Even though you didn't get an apology from him forgive him because if hold to the wrong he did, it is going eat you up inside and keep you stuck where your at now.
The reality of things is he done move on and is out enjoying his life while your is at a stall. You have life in you so you need to live it. He don't run the show you do.

You stated you were going break up with everyway so that is more of a reason to let go and move on.

For closure for yourself, write a letter expressing your feelings than burn it. The burning of the letter is the end of this chapter and you can start your new one.

Also, you stated all the bad qualities in him so use that to help you move on. You can do better and owe it yourself to move on.

That's true and I guess that thought bugs me. He was my first. Do u ever find yourself thinking of your first even though your with the guys of your dreams? Like do you still have a soft spot for your ex even though you don't regret it and don't want to he back with him?

Go out with your friends and find you someone else he probably was just using you any way .if he comes crawling back someday tell him to hit the road

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That's true and I guess that thought bugs me. He was my first. Do u ever find yourself thinking of ur first even though ur with the guys of ur dreams? Like do u still have a soft spot for ur ex even though u don't regret it and don't want to he back with him?

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Yes. My ex though didn't cheat on me, we're good and he was nice man. We just have to part ways. That's why it took me long to get over him.

Thanks liz28 =)
and those are some of my favorite songs by the way.
I guess I am a little imbarressed by pleading for him back when he broke up making myself seem dumb and I don't want him to think that and spread that word around knowing that I really was out of his league. So its just a blower.

thank you ylaira and madhatter2 as well =)
and I deff will do that madhatter2

Memories can't be erase so should I sometimes reflect on my past relationships but that is it. In my book an ex is ex for a reason and I don't walk backwards.

I don't have a soft spot for done of my exes because if I did that means they can easily come back into my life with the sweet talk and I could for it. So no weak spots but yes to the memories whether it's good or bad.

I don't hate my ex, nor have ill feelings towards her. Time heals all wounds, even the deepest of cuts but the scars remain and you need to remember that. Things will get better you just have to give it the time it needs

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I was going out with this guy for 14 months and we were in love but now he doesn't love me anymore. He didn't want to make it work because he likes someone else a lot now. After all that we have been through it hurts a lot to see him with someone else and seeing how he doesn't care anymore about what we had and how he is with her. How do I deal with her? I'm not friends with my ex anymore but we have plenty of mutual friends and it just hurts me. Any advice? Thanks

Get new friends and for God's sake avoid him like the plague. I know how hard it is to see a former ex with someone else, and it is very important that you DO NOT go around them. I am sorry, it is probably one of the most hurtful things to deal with, but you need to take steps to rectify the situation and if that means getting a new circle of friends, the so be it. Protect yourself, that is what matters.

What do you mean when you say "how do I deal with her?" You do nothing with or to her. She didn't do nothing wrong dating your EX.

Your ex is your ex and is free to date whoever he wants. You need to get a grip and accept it.

I thought you was starting to get it from your other thread but your not. Your holding on to something that not there let it go and work on healing yourself for your own sanity.

You said it, you cope with your own feelings by leaving them alone and doing your own thing. Maybe its time to find other things to do besides hanging with mutual friends.

Going out with a guy in the crowd is very difficult when things go sour. Some time without the crowd will help, but its going to be hard.

How old are you?

I didn't mean do anything to her just like deal with the fact but u guys are right thank you this has really helped.