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  • Apr 28, 2009, 05:31 PM
    jess101
    guys are so confusing
    So I know this is a bit childish to be asking questions about guys and stuff. But I'm desperate. I've had the worst luck with guys and I'm almost about to give up and call it quits all together. So here's my problem. My best friend set me up with her boyfriends best friend. We met at barcode and danced together and talked. We texted everyday after that for like a month. He would say cute things and we would flirt. Then he came over to my house and met the parent and we cuddled and watched a movie. We continued to text everyday. Then he asked me to go to the movies with him. So a couple of days ago we did and we ended up cuddling and making out. The next da we got into a conversation and he asked me what we would do if he was at my house alone. I sad hmm probably nothing since I would be considered a hoe messing around with random guys. He said but I'm not a random guy. Then I finally manned up and said am I just a girl to mess a round with. You can tell me its cool. He said like friends with benefits? Yeah that's cool with me. I was so mad after that.So we got into an argument and then we wer fine and back to normal. Now we haven't really texted in two whole days and when I text him he doesn't seem to want to talk to me. I really liked him, I thought I would never like a guy after my last bad breakup. I just have the worst luck. What's your opinions?
  • Apr 28, 2009, 06:32 PM
    Survivor07

    I think you have a good head on your shoulders, not bad luck.

    You saw through his question.

    If he was interested in you and in getting to know you better (so as not to be some random guy), he wouldn't be concerned with whether you two are alone at your house or wherever.

    He's a guy looking to score.

    Good job seeing through it.

    Also, I know the whole text-flirting thing is cool, but there's nothing like picking up the phone and actually talking to someone, hearing their laugh, etc. May be old-fashioned, but it's more personal. That's what someone would do who is really interested in getting to know you better.

    Hang in there and be patient. Take pride in yourself. You said the right thing. Better to find out now what the guy is after before it's too late and you get your heart broken.
  • Apr 29, 2009, 01:15 AM
    ylaira

    I am only 26, only had 2 bf's and my first boyfriend is when I was 20. Am I ugly? No. I am followed around by strangers several times and voted heart throb once. Why I only had 2 bf's? Because I want the best guy for me. The one whom I share same understanding and goals in life. If I'll date someone, I want to see bright future if in case we'll end up together and someone I can brag to anyone. I give my all so I don't want to just hook up with anyone who doesn't deserve my time.

    So back to your question, you don't have the worst luck. A lot of people getting into misery just because they ignore these type of red flags from the very beginning. It's worst to have a guy but as miserable as hell.

    Dating life is just like that, you'll win some, you lose some.so keep on trying.
  • Apr 30, 2009, 08:57 AM
    talaniman

    Your luck with guys is not bad, its just your instincts are very good.

    Seeing what a guy really wants, is not bad luck, it's the best way to protect yourself, and your heart from being used for sex, and dumped like trash.

    Your okay, and one day a real good guy will come along.
  • Apr 30, 2009, 09:51 AM
    I wish

    He obviously just want the friends with benefits part and that's not what you want. You made the right choice by not giving in.

    It's not that guys are confusing, it's just that not all guys want a serious relationship. You just need to find someone who does, cause that seems like what you want.

    If one guy doesn't see things the way you see it and doesn't want the same thing you want, then move on.

    He's not the only guy out there for you.

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