I need help I just want some closesurer what to do I have been hurting every day it's hurts even more. I have tried an still trying to forgive him but I will never forget. I just gave my opinion to someone else made me really think, am still not over it. I am trying to fix it and even live and trying to bypass this hurt. I don't know. All co-workers out there be aware one day it's all good but it might turn around and bit you in the bud.

Okay what exactly are you talking about?

What exactly happened. What is the whole story. Can you please share the details of this so we can actually help by giving better answers.

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Originally Posted by maria51

I need help I just want some closesurer what to do I have been hurting every day it's hurts even more. I have tried an still trying to forgive him but I will never forget. I just gave my opinion to someone else made me really think, am still not over it. I am trying to fix it and even live and trying to bypass this hurt. I don't know. All co-workers out there be aware one day it's all good but it might turn around and bit you in the bud.

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Am sorry you had to see those pictures I feel so unhappy for you, because I am going to the same thing, but I didn't see pictures I heard them on the phone, after he finished talking to me he thought he hanged up the phone. What I didn't know was that they were together in my truck. Doing the nasty... my heart felt down I couldn't breath I could have died. If it wasn't for my grandson on my lap I don't know what I would have done. Yes we hate them yes we want to do away with them but to find an answer in the internet it's none. I tried for days typing asking questions to see if any of this makes any sense. Yes I also forgive him for his other affair. You think I would have learn we can't change them. I see that now we need to change we need to live and show them that we too are alive. I know it's easier said then done. Look am 51 going to be 52 in Aug 19, 2009. I don't know what to tell you I even went to Brooklyn Tabernacle for spiritual help. It helped for a few days because it allowed me to cry and cry. It didn't help me I can't get their voices out of my mind. What I can tell you is that one day I was on the LIRR an a strange man seat next to me and said: look it can be all that bad I looked at him and was ready to give it to him when I saw a man with a look that looked that he understood my pain. We talked and he said to me go home be the woman that kept him there with you. Forget what happen I know it's not easy give it one more chance but on your terms. Be alive go make yourself more beautiful don't ask anyone for advice go and live. Love yourself and he will see what he lost. You won. God bless be happy then he left. I went home and its still hard because it was just this March Friday the 27 at 2:27pm when I heard them. He is so sorry and hurtful that he has cried to my adult children and asked them for their forgiveness, but they told him NO YOU NEED TO MAKE OUR MOTHER HAPPIER THEN EVER BEFORE. Yes it's not easy but am trying I even went on a beauty trip boy did it help. Am alive I think one day at a time. If am wrong then can anyone help us.

First breath and you are obviously upset since your question or story or what ever it is, just rambles, changes subjects with no way to follow excatly what you are talking about.

There is no magic closure, there is only time and moving on with your own life

Thanks Fr.Chuck I was not sure how to tackle this question.