Originally Posted by
kp2171
sexual drive can drop off for many reasons... hormone levels can be out of whack... stress, anxiety, lack of good sleep (not just hours, but quality), a lack of exercise, issues outside the bedroom in the relationship, etc...
her overall lack of affection means its time to address this. inside the bedroom will not get any better long term without addressing her lack of affection overall.
and personally, you never throw out things like "if you dont like it, theres the door" unless you are willing to see it to that end.
she might be going through a rut in the marriage. studies show that most relationships go through this much more often that the "seven year itch" myth.
so... one thing my partner and i have done is read books and share them... for ex, gary chapman's Five Love Languages is one i talk about all the time. talks about how couples show committment to each other, and how sometimes that committment is missed by the other partner. an easy read. one you can look through and pass on... hopefully shell take a look.
personally... regular exercise is one of the most important things that keeps me balanced... and that also includes my sex drive.
also, with a little one around, private time can be scarce to none.
so... do you make time with her alone? arrange for a sitter? spend a night out together, even if its 10 minutes away from home?
if my partner isnt relaxed and away from the noise of life, it can be hard to get her mentally where i am.
so... perhaps its time to find ways to give you two "couple" time together, to be able to reconnect.
if she is resistant to this, id start getting suspicious and/or worried.