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  • Apr 27, 2009, 02:37 PM
    EWSN
    Boyfriend fantasizes that I do him in the butt.
    He told me this once after having one too many drinks.
    We're in a long term relationship, we are very much in love. We never do it more times in a row though, it's like - we did it so now let's watch TV. Although I know he likes it, he doesn't play much (if it was up to me we'd find ways to do it again even 10 minutes after)- well, with him you have to wait till he's again in the mood, which could be after 8 hours or after 4 days.

    Back to the topic, while confessing to me how he regrets that I can't 'have his ', he assured me he'll take care of this, as the hemorrhoids holding us back now from putting this into practice can be solved surgically.

    p.s. we did anal and I can't complain, he was cautious enough for me to start liking it.
    Of course he likes it too.

    But tell me... how does the request of me doing him sound to you like ?

    Although HE can talk me into pretty much anything, a different sort of question arises in my head now.
  • Apr 27, 2009, 02:42 PM
    Justwantfair

    Opinion, it's a fantasy that he would like to try.

    That doesn't make him gay. Many straight men enjoy anal beads, maybe that would be a more comfortable first step, if the thought of his fantasy makes you uncomfortable.
  • Apr 27, 2009, 05:06 PM
    liz28

    There's nothing wrong this. Everybody has fantasies and maybe it a few drinks for him to tell you this. He might have been scare of your reaction.

    You should take to him again about it and if your open to the idea try it.

    You can use a smal vibrator or snap on. From my understanding a guy can have a major orgasm from it.
  • Apr 27, 2009, 05:12 PM
    Krazi
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by EWSN View Post
    He told me this once after having one too many drinks.
    We're in a long term relationship, we are very much in love. We never do it more times in a row though, it's like - we did it so now let's watch TV. Although I know he likes it, he doesn't play much (if it was up to me we'd find ways to do it again even 10 minutes after)- well, with him you have to wait till he's again in the mood, which could be after 8 hours or after 4 days.

    Back to the topic, while confessing to me how he regrets that I can't 'have his ', he assured me he'll take care of this, as the hemorrhoids holding us back now from putting this into practice can be solved surgically.

    p.s. we did anal and I can't complain, he was cautious enough for me to start liking it.
    Of course he likes it too.

    But tell me ... how does the request of me doing him sound to you like ?

    Although HE can talk me into pretty much anything, a different sort of question arises in my head now.

    :eek:

    Fantasies such as this one doesn't mean he is gay... lil crazy and out of his mind but not gay.
  • Apr 27, 2009, 05:14 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Krazi View Post
    :eek:

    fantasies such as this one doesnt mean he is gay......lil crazy and outta his mind but not gay.

    LMAO!

    Actually, a lot of guys enjoy anal penetration. :)
  • Apr 27, 2009, 06:14 PM
    Fuzzball_Kara

    If you have a problem with it then you aren't forced into anything. There's nothing wrong with it because its not what you're doing, its who it's with. Its always fun to experiment.
  • Apr 27, 2009, 07:45 PM
    lighterrr

    My fiancé allows me to only put my finger in there anything else he gets crazy about and his response usually starts and ends with the word "NO"
  • Apr 27, 2009, 08:20 PM
    Krazi

    In short be opened minded about the fantasy and take him on his ride then later chat w/ him on how you felt about it.
  • Apr 27, 2009, 11:36 PM
    shazamataz

    My partner said no. no. no. but then one night he suggested it and liked it! A lot of guys think it makes them 'gay' if they have a finger up there but if you do it right then they'll never say no again :)
  • Apr 28, 2009, 06:02 AM
    smoothy

    Don't sweat it... lot of couples do it from time to time.. Lot of women really get of doing it as well.

    Doesn't make him gay unless he decides to leave you to hang around the locker rooms at Ice Skating events.
  • Apr 28, 2009, 06:14 AM
    excon
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by EWSN View Post
    We never do it more times in a row though, it's like - we did it so now let's watch TV.

    Hello E:

    If you started doing fun stuff, screwing becomes better than TV. Who knows? You might even enjoy strapping on a strap on. Have you ever?? Times a wasting, Girl!

    excon
  • Apr 28, 2009, 05:34 PM
    kp2171
    He is fine.

    Anal stim, whether peripheral or with penetration, can feel great.

    The lover that used a slim vibe on me did me a great favor. Loved it. More please.

    I'm completely not into guys. Don't even think a girl with a strap on is my style. But some anal play can take a decent orgasm and make it seismic.

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