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  • Apr 24, 2009, 05:43 PM
    theresbeautyinu
    Is this bi-sexual?
    I think I like this girl (im a girl) she was my best friend but we got in a fight, that fight broke my heart! I did dream of her, but not wrongly... I never really wanted to kiss her or do anything else with her... but I felt protective of her, and I didn't want her dating anyone else... I wanted her. But I also like this guy allot! But the same, I don't want to kiss him or anything... but is it still bi-sexual?:confused:
  • Apr 24, 2009, 10:28 PM
    N0help4u

    You are talking about another girl then you switch it to him at the end.?
    IF you have no sexual desire and do not want to kiss her or anything then it isn't bi
    It sounds like a simple case of jealousy.
  • Apr 24, 2009, 11:48 PM
    shazamataz
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by N0help4u View Post
    You are talking about another girl then you switch it to him at the end. ???
    IF you have no sexual desire and do not want to kiss her or anything then it isn't bi
    It sounds like a simple case of jealousy.

    That's what I was thinking, it sounds like a little jealously, not wanting her to see any guys doesn't necessarily mean you are sexually attracted to the person.
    I can admit that I was very bitter about my friends seeing other guys at school, but I wa jealous of them.
    Now, I don't regret not dating while I was still at school, after seeing how badly all of my friends took their break-ups (which in high school is inevitable) I'm glad I waited until I was older :)
  • Apr 25, 2009, 06:22 AM
    theresbeautyinu

    I don't have sexual desires for either her or him. I just really like him! And I think I might really like her!
  • Apr 25, 2009, 06:38 AM
    adam_89

    Maybe you are a little bi-curious. If some will agree to that being such a thing. Do you fantasize about being with a woman or anything of the sort?
  • Apr 25, 2009, 08:14 AM
    shazamataz
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by theresbeautyinu View Post
    i dont have sexual desires for either her or him. i just really like him! and i think i might really like her!

    Well if you really like him then of course you wouldn't want her to see him!

    I agree with Adam, at a young age quite a few girls (and some guys) attentions are drawn to the opposite sex, it's just curiosity. Have you ever looked at a mens magazine or photos or girls and thought of them in a sexual way or just thought "oh she's pretty" because even I can admire other girls being pretty or sexy and I'm very much straight.
  • Apr 25, 2009, 09:42 AM
    theresbeautyinu

    I'm not sure, I like her in the same kind of way that I like him.
  • Apr 25, 2009, 11:00 AM
    Fr_Chuck

    I would say no, most likely it is more a matter that you are jealous of friends spending too much time with others
  • Apr 25, 2009, 11:30 AM
    theresbeautyinu

    Mmk
  • Apr 27, 2009, 06:39 AM
    adam_89

    How old are you also? Or is your question answered?
  • Apr 27, 2009, 12:06 PM
    theresbeautyinu

    No its not.. I'm 13... like I don't like anyone in a sexual way at all not guys, not girls. I REALLY like this boy, I like everything about him... and I like her too... in the same kind of way.
  • Apr 27, 2009, 12:38 PM
    Emily36

    Very close girl friendships can feel emotionally like romantic relationships with guys BUT there is NO sex involved or desired.
  • Apr 27, 2009, 12:49 PM
    adam_89

    I would say that you are probably just confused at such a young age. It is hard to say what to do for a young girl your age, maybe perhaps you should just wait your feelings out and see what develops.
  • Apr 27, 2009, 05:10 PM
    theresbeautyinu

    Well, I've have thoughts about it since I was 12... and she just left me about 2 weeks ago... and it broke me... a feeling I never felt before... I got rejected by the guy I like in November... but even that didn't hurt as bad as fighting with her... it was a completely empty feeling, I wanted to die, I cryed whenever I got the chance. I LOVED her. And I WANT her!
  • Apr 28, 2009, 03:45 AM
    Random_Thought

    It is normal for us to feel this way about a friend we spend a lot of time with. We put so much of ourselves in a friendship and when we fight it hurts. We feel alone and abandoned.

    I don't think its jealousy, it sounds your feeling are real for you!


    PS, you probably just have a crush on the guy.. its all so normal.
  • Apr 28, 2009, 05:51 AM
    adam_89

    Well, I had a friend that was really close to me, and we did everything together and partied every weekend and I practically lived with him and his girlfriend. I never had any feelings for him in a bad way. When we stopped being friends for some reason it really hurt me, but I knew it wasn't anything of emotional thing like that. I still miss hanging out with them, they were like my family. If you think you could find yourself in a relationship with a girl then give it a whirl. I know kids now a days are having sex more and more early, but please do wait on that.
  • Apr 28, 2009, 01:48 PM
    theresbeautyinu

    I don't want to have sex. And the only girl I can see me in a relationship with is her... but we won't even be friends again... she's like a drug to me. I can't stay away... I'm addicted to her.
  • Apr 28, 2009, 01:54 PM
    adam_89

    Isn't there a way to talk to her again or talk about your feelings to her?
  • Apr 28, 2009, 02:11 PM
    theresbeautyinu

    I've tried... she don't listen... she says she don't care and then leaves... we live in a different state then the other... but we talked on aim and myspace and the phone all the time... and I fell in love with her, and I did tell her... and she liked me back, and then just... about a month ago changed, then two weeks ago left me.
  • Apr 28, 2009, 08:08 PM
    shazamataz

    Maybe the thought of a same sex relationship sounded good at first but she got scared off by the idea.
    You are both very young and she might have talked to a few people about it and got a negative reaction so decided to distance herself from you.

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