I feel that my boyfriend of 2 years is now finding me unattractive. He won't have sex with me any more, and would rather work on his car than see me. I love him a lot I just wish he treated me like he use to. What should I do? :confused:

How old are you? And how long ago did this start?

I am 18 and it just started 3-4 months ago.

The honeymoon does end at some point.

That is not to say that you should settle for less than what you need but you must be realistic and know that the hearts and flowers don't last forever.

Find something to occupy yourself when he is working on his car.

Having a life separate from him is always to your advantage.

#1 Can you talk to him about it? Tell him that you're feeling like he's becoming more distant. Communication is key in relationships.
#2 If he's willing to work with you on it, then things are fine. If he tells you he's too busy to call you during the day or he doesn't reply to your emails because he doesn't check his email often... I don't think that's a good sign.
#3 Make sure that you're doing your own thing. Have you been less busy recently or has nothing changed? If nothing has changed, then I feel that there may be a problem. If you have had more free time, then you should take up a sport, join a club, or start working on some hobby in your spare time.

The honeymoon is over, and the real work begins. Work together, to grow together, to solve your problems together.

Do you work? Are there kids? Do you have a life that you enjoy without him? Guys do need space you know.

Do you know he's finding you unattractive? If he's telling you that you are, then I say that's a sign to get on out of there.
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I agree with the above posters when they say the honeymoon is over. Now you'll find out if it's real love or not ,and if you two are compatible.

Your past the euphoric stage and now getting into the real stuff. This is now time to get out your best tools; communication, understanding, compassion and trust.


Sarah