I and my boyfriend were together for 2 yrs he would always want to go out and come home when he felt like it most of the week. He could never find anything for us to do together but hang out in the clubs around a lot of people flirting with the other women around. His excuse "I'm just a friendly person”. He always has to be in the spot light like a class clown or to make it seem as if he is more than he really is. He works every day but has no money because he has child support to pay for his many kids but I still been there for him through it all I would even find myself helping him out financially with money, cars and clothes and then he would turn a round and disrespect me by treating me as if I was just another groupie on the street instead of the woman he was suppose to be in love with and want to marry for the last 2 yrs. He has moved out of the house and he really doesn’t call anymore unless he needs to be held (if you know what I mean?) I recently found that he had an affair after being introduce by a mutual friend and showing his weakness now that I know who she is I always see her whenever I go out or we are out at a function but he tells me to get over it because what's done is done. We belong to the same group which allows me to see him often and this is what makes it hard because I can’t distant myself from the group but it is really becoming hard to deal with it all. How do I get past this and be able to move on to where he does not faze me anymore? I really did care for him but I don’t think he felt the same way about me.

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I think you should try to hang out with different friends, or maybe invite a few of them to your place to hang out. Meet new people at work, etc. Really the best way to get completely over him is to forget about him. Which means try to run in to him as little as possible. I think it's a great decision to not be with this person. Kudos to you.

I think that you need to think about yourself, and put yourself before everything else. Put yourself in situations where you can meet a nice man (and more than likely you aren't going to find that with a guys who constantly goes clubbing in my opinion).

It is best to move on. He's been treating you horribly, he's been using you.

Best way to move on is to cut all contact from him. No contact is the best way to heal. It can take a while but it's the best strategy.

- none12345

I don't understand why you can't distance yourself from this group. It isn't healthy for you, so you have to take some steps on your behalf to make it better.

As for the guy, obviously it's over, but please never find the same guy in a different body. Nobody needs that kind of negativity in their life.

You could stand a life makeover, with new friends, and activities, that you enjoy.