Does race really matter in a relationship?
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Does race really matter in a relationship?
Depends on how you feel.
Some families don't agree, but love is what it is.
It doesn't matter to me but to some people it does.
Unfortunately there is still a stigma against interracial marriages. This doesn't affect how the two parties feel about each other, but it can put enormous pressure on their marriage. So it means that the two people need to even more sure about their feelings then other couples and iof they are teens, this means waiting even longer to see how they feelings survive.
It shouldn't matter but some people still frown on it. The bottom line is a person has to do what makes them happy.
There are stereotypes such as if you see an asian woman with an american man you "think, I wonder how much she cost him to order?"
I personally don't think it matters. As long as you love the person and don't care what other people think. Love is love..
It will only matter to those you let it matter to. Some will stare, gasp and whisper but if your in love just hold your head high. Love is no ones business but your own. If you have children involved or may one day you just may need to be strong for them. School children aren't so nice these days. If someone makes a comment to you tell them not to be envious.
Right now because you are young it doesn't matter. What you have to think about is if you want to make this a permanent relationship, to include marriage and children. Children are really the ones that get hurt in interracial relationships. Mixing races can produce unique health concerns. Things can develop that you would never think about. You also make multiple racial children different. Can you make sure that they are introduce to all their cultures? Then there are things such as religion. I just gave you a few things to think about. There are still the prejudices of society to consider also.
Does it bother you that others will judge you? If not, then nope. If yes, then yes.
You make the choice.
I think a lot of it depends on where you live.
I live in a very culturally diverse area where interracial relationships are the norm.
If you can accept the differences in culture and upbringing and understand that we are all people first,than it should not matter.
People will judge you no matter what you do.
You must be confidant that you are doing what is right for you and be prepared that some will always find a reason to hang on to their ignorance and intolerance.
America is just a huge melding pot of all different races and cultures.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sheila456
The girl is Caucasian and the boy is Hispanic.
Not too many people even think twice about the interracial aspects of those two cultures in America.
Often the biggest scorn is exclusive to Caucasian and African American relationships, unfortunately. That is because of the American history between the two races and because of beliefs of some older generations of what the two races meant. It is exceptionally bias and judgemental.
While this is true, the interraction between races is only recently becoming more acceptable. Historically, American races have tended to seek their own kind in segregated areas some voluntarily others not so voluntarily. This has also been true of cultural groups as well. Look at NYC, where the Lower East Side was predominately Jewish, a little further north you had ChinaTown and then Little Italy. Astoria has traditonally been a Greek area. Brighton Beach became Russian in the 80s. There are dozens of other examples.Quote:
Originally Posted by Justwantfair
Yes if this is the racial difference, people will hardly bat an eye. But, based on the OP's other posts, I still urge caution and they should give time to let their relationship grow.Quote:
Originally Posted by Justwantfair
Are you serious? I'd really like to know what "health concerns" multiracial children have. Also, introducing a child to different cultures is healthy. Even if it's a friend or neighbor's culture- they should not be sheltered from other cultures. Everyone should learn about their heritage; not just multiracial children. You mentioned religion... do you think that people of different races can't share the same religion? Catholics, Baptists, Muslims, etc come in all different races.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sheila456
I'm not blind that there can be issues when dating interracially due to some people's reluctance to accept it. But I don't see where you brought health and religion into it.
I think as was said a few posts back, the couple just has to be strong in their love for one another to deal with the disdainful looks that they may face.
Wow, simmer down there.Quote:
Originally Posted by nikosmom
True there are health concerns with multiracial children, but no more or less than any other children. At least you know it's not your cousin, eh! ;)
"You also make multiple racial children different."-Sheila456 That is true, "YOU" do make them different by accepting or thinking that they are. They bleed, breath, pee, crap, see, hear, feel, taste, smell, walk, make speech sounds, and have brains just like any one else. Don't be so quick to assume that Culture is the deffinition of an individual.
Not only should we learn about "our" heritage, but it may prove wise to learn about all cultural heritages. The Romans, the greeks, the english, the spanish, the asians, Egyptions, natives, Aboriganies, and so on.
Relgion, well I can't really say much on that since I don't believe in any one religion, but a multi religious understanding.
Peace and kindness
It's only an issue if you make it one.
Sarah
I'm all simmered. :oQuote:
Originally Posted by Nestorian
I think it's a matter of this person having supporting statements for such a broad claim. And I think bringing health into a question about dating was weird.
Yes, you're right, at least you know it's not your cousin! :)
Where I live 90% of the children are multi racial and they have no health issues due to it.
If you live in a racist town and you seriously want to be with somebody of a different race then when you are old enough move somewhere that it is more acceptable if necessary.
No, Race does not matter.
To an older generation it matters to them.
Younger generation not so much and it should not anyway.
I thought we were raising children who never judge ?Quote:
Originally Posted by Jesushelper76
I think if we can all relate ,its all good:) Good thinking Linkin
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