I could use some advise on how to handle this situation. Our 4 year old daughter is best friends with the little girl next door. We have been friendly throughout the few years we have been living in our neighborhood. All of a sudden the mother of the little girl whom we have been friends with is totally ignoring us. We asked the other day if her daughter wanted to come play she was welcome. (it was a beautiful day an other children were playing in our yard too) She said "no." She looks down and does not acknowledge us when we are outside. I said "hello" this morning as we were both on our way to work, and she puts her head down and either ignored me or didn't hear me. (I truly believe she heard me.) If this didn't involve our daughter, I would not care. But, I am concerned she is not going to allow the girls to play together and how do I handle that with my child? I do not know what we have done. She has done this in the past when we first moved into the neighborhood. This is really really bothering me. Do I approach her or just wait until it blows over? Please advise your thoughts. It is greatly appreciated:(

I would go over, bring a plate of cookies and ask if you two can talk.

Be direct. Tell her that you've noticed that she's cold towards you. Tell her that you're concerned for your daughter and hers, that you think that their friendship is important.

Ask her if you've done something that offended her.

Just talk. You can't guess, no sense trying to figure it out, so just ask. :)

I hope it works out.

Good luck.

Ask her what's up- she may be going through a situation of her own.

Say "I couldn't help but notice that we've been distant and I also sense a tension. I don't want to assume anything but I'd really like to know if there is a problem between us--and if there is could we put our issues aside, our children are good friends and I wouldn't want to ruin that because of us"

Good luck to you,

Sarah

I went over on the weekend and had extra desert, she basically threw it on the counter - a very curt "thanks".

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Originally Posted by quickhelp

I went over on the weekend and had extra desert, she basicly threw it on the counter - a very curt "thanks".

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Have you asked her what's going on?

You won't find out until you ask.