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My husband and I just found out that his daughter from a previous relationship had been molested 3yrs ago. She was around 7 yrs old at the time My husband hasn't seen her in a few years but they talk on the phone regularly. My question is how does he cope with the news. There is no way of him being there for her in this time of need because his daughters step dad is being stationed in Japan for the next 3 years and she's going with him. I'm scared that my husband will want to hurt himself or the man that did this to her.

He can help her by finding a group with other victims, call your local Sexual Assault Hotlines and find support groups [ 1.800.656.HOPE ].

He could also start by paying for a therapist.

She needs a lot of support right now, even if it happened a few years ago, the impact is still so very real. I know he can't be there personally so maybe more phone calls, or he could also start saving up money to visit her for a or have her visit you.

As a parent, I too would be enranged. However he needs to keep in mind that she's in a world of hurt and needs to stay calm. I know impossible right? He just needs to bite his tongue when he talks to her and focus on how she's feeling rather than replaying what happened and reminding her what a scum the abuser is. However if she brings up the perp, he needs to let her talk it out- he shouldn't be the one bringing him up.

He needs to remind her that he loves her and that he will help her to deal with how she feels- and allow her to call him whenever she wants, even if it's at 3AM.

I would also suggest taking legal action- people like that should'nt be roaming the streets freely.

I am so sorry she was violated. My heart goes out the her.

Sarah

First off did the step dad do this to her? What was done to the person that did? Did her mom call the police if not why? Does your husband want to fight for custody? Does the girl want to leave where she is? All this must be answered before a choice can be thoguth about.