Ask Me Help Desk - Broken heart

Heyy. I'm 16 and about to have my first child.
My boyfriend and I was just going out for a month and he got me pregnant.
Well everything was going good and it was like 7 months we have been together he called me the other day and told me that he had a new girlfriend that broke my heart so badd. I didn't know what to do I thought omg I have to do this on my own now. I was so depressed he just up and left me. Then he told me that he never loved me and I was just a play and all kind of stuff. What should I do now?:mad:

I feel for u sweetie. I'm 28, single, and no kids. I've been very careful just for this fact. I don't want my children growing up in a broken relationship. It's hard to find someone worth while these days.
I wish I had an answer for you hun. All I can say is to go at him with the FULL force of the courts. Make him pay for his ignorance and lack of responsibility for what he helped to make.

You say good riddance to that loser.Any guy who would do that to a girl in your position is an unspeakable jerk and you are better off knowing now than later.

You concentrate on your beautiful baby and how you are going to be a great Mom.

You ask for help from your loved ones and know that soon when you are holding your baby in your arms his immature behavior will mean nothing to you because you will be so far ahead of him in life and maturity.

Take good care of yourself and plan for you and your baby's future.

Best of luck to you and you new little one!

What he did was bad. If I were you, ill do a spell on him and make him come back to me. After all the baby should get her real fathers love and care.. don't let him play with any other girls life.
Girl, you can make him as you want him to be, you can get his love back, by using a love spell.
You can get it on internet.. all the very best

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Originally Posted by dreamgrl

what he did was bad. if i were you, ill do a spell on him and make him come back to me. after all the baby should get her real fathers love and care.. don’t let him play with any other girls life.
girl, you can make him as you want him to be, you can get his love back, by using a love spell.
you can get it on internet.. all the very best

No child should be subjected to a "father" like this one. He is what I refer to as a sperm donor.

Artlady is correct in all she had to say. I wholeheartedly agree.

And what is all this about a love spell? It's on some of your other posts, Dreamgrl. Are you joking around? There is no such thing as a love spell. Telling this girl that she can "make him as you want him to be" WHAT?

People come here for some solid advice and support.

It's a shame what happened in this situation. Unfortunately, it's all too common.

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Originally Posted by teenagemom

heyy. im 16 and about to have my first child.
my boyfriend and i was just goin out for a month and he got me pregnant.
well everything was going good and it was like 7 months we have been together he called me the other day and told me that he had a new girlfriend that broke my heart soo badd. i didnt know what to do i thought omg i have to do this on my own now. i was so depressed he just up and left me. then he told me that he never loved me and i was just a play and all kind of stuff. what should i do now?:mad:

Depending on where you live, country, province, etc. There maybe great government out reach programs. I suggest you start looking into that, but first talk to your parents. Get the support from them that you need, as you are still young and have much to do before you are ready to be on your own.

There are any number of reason's your BF left you. But none of them are important, because you are an individual of great worth, especially to your baby; so please do not dwell on that which you can not change. Instead, focuse on your health, your babies health, school as it helps keep your mind off other things, preparing for the baby and still being you: hanging with friends the ones who are not too stuck up to still be cool with you, exercising is very great for both mum and babe, and what ever it is your enjoy.

There will be other boys, and later men. Be mindful of your lessons you've, you're, you'll learn through this when those opportunities arrise.

Good luck. And I know you're probably not in the mood for it, but Congratulations!;)

Man. I bet he'll do the same thing to this new girlfriend too. I hope you get all the support that you need for this new baby. It's a responsibility but a child is such a blessing. Good luck to you and hisses at that evil boy.

Raising kids is really hard. I'm sorry your boyfriend has decided to flake off... Now that you are pregnant and alone you need to get serious and really think this through. What would you have done to begin with if you found out your were pregnant and did not have the baby's father in the picture to help raise the child? Would you have had an abortion? Would you have kept the baby or put it up for adoption?

Without the help of the baby's father, at your age it is going to be very very hard to do a good job of taking care of yourself and taking care of the baby. Are your parents going to help you? It is important to know ahead of time if you are going to have help from them and exactly what kind of help you can expect from them. Knowing a head of time will help you decide how to proceed with the rest of your life...

If your parents are willing to help you, things will still be really hard but you should be able to manage to finish school and figure out what kind of career you want and get the schooling for that. Maybe with the help of your parents in time you will be able to take care of yourself and your child on your own. Its going to be really tough and really hard work.

Without your parents help and without the father helping it will be even more of a struggle :(. Maybe you should think of putting the baby up for adoption. There are so many people that are in a good position to raise a child but can't have one of their own just waiting for a baby like yours to come along.

Whatever you do, you need to think long and hard because lets face it, you are still a child yourself. A teenager. Sweet Sixteen. You are old enough to be a parent but you aren't old enough to be the best parent you can be. I know you will love your baby no matter what and you will do the very best you can whatever you decide.

It isn't going to be easy any way you go.

Good luck for both you and the baby!

He's gone, good let him leave. He'll regret it one day when he decided to grow up. Hold tight and stay close to your loved ones lean on them when you are weak, and I know the minute you see and hold that precious little treasure you'll know that nothing else matters except for your little angel and being a god mom to him or her.

By the way do you know what your having.

All I can say is I'm sorry that this happened to you but let him go... he'll go use another girl, don't let it be you again... make sure you file child support on him don't let him walk around not paying... and know that your way better then he is... hes trash, sorry but any man that don't take care of there child is... I know I have a trash baby daddy... believe me what don't kill you will only make you stronger! Good luck

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Originally Posted by artlady

You say good riddance to that loser.Any guy who would do that to a girl in your position is an unspeakable jerk and you are better off knowing now than later.

You concentrate on your beautiful baby and how you are going to be a great Mom.

You ask for help from your loved ones and know that soon when you are holding your baby in your arms his immature behavior will mean nothing to you because you will be so far ahead of him in life and maturity.

Take good care of yourself and plan for you and your baby's future.

Best of luck to you and you new little one!

I had to spread the rep - but Artlady is absolutely right. Anyone who would do what he has done is not worth your tears. Put your time and energy into loving yourself and your baby.

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Originally Posted by teenagemom

....and he got me pregnant.

First of all let me say this; he did not "get you pregnant" on his own. It takes 2 and if you are going to engage is sex then the possibility of a child is very possible, but that does not excuse him of his responsibility by any stretch of the imagination. DO NOT let this guy off the hook financially. He may not want any emotional part of the child's life but you make sure he does the right thing financially.