Okay, so I've had this best friend ever since the beginning of middle school. We've been super close and even been on out of state vacations together. She is quite a flirt and sometimes doesn't know when enough is enough. I had dated this guy off and on for a year and he always dumped me. I have a new boyfriend now who I've been with for six months. Well, she started dating my ex which at first ticked me off, but hey, what are you going to do? They have been dating for five months now. Anyway, we usually have fights but we get through 'em. We were at our friends party on Saturday at a hotel and there was a wrestling team staying there that night. She got to talking to one of them and gave her number. We went back to our room and she started texting him. They were talking about us sneaking out to meet them since it was pretty late. He got to saying stuff like make out with me, hug, feel, flash me, etc. So she decided that her and another girl would sneak out later. She told none of us to mention this to her boyfriend. Well, I had already been texting my boyfriend and telling him this stuff, but he wouldn't tell. She eventually snuck out while we were sleeping and I don't know what went on. Yet, she always talks about how much she loves her boyfriend and doesn't want to screw things up. Well, I figured he out of know, right? I'd want to know. Soooooo, I kind of told him and she got dumped for it. Then freaked out on me for telling. Meanwhile she's telling him it was all a lie and never happened. And everyone at school's calling me a . I didn't really do anything wrong. She really should've stayed faithfull to him in the beginning and none of this would've happened. All I did was tell him. But she hates me now and blames me for everything. Didn't I do the right thing? What should I do? I just want her to realize that she shouldn't have done anything and she wouldn't be in this situation. HELP! :(

Your friend sounds toxic. She's manipulating you in order to get her way, and she doesn't give a damn whether it hurts you or not.

Your best bet is to distance yourself from this girl. I make it a rule not to date a friend's ex and most of the time that is the best choice. Not only did she date your ex but your seeing your former love being hurt by her- and I know that has to hurt somewhat.

It is no longer your duty to cover for her. Stand up for yourself- this girl is not a good one to keep around. Distancing yourself from her will benefit you and I assure you there would be less drama.

You'll be okay, keep me posted.

Sarah

I think you did the right thing by telling him and remember sometimes doing the right thing does not mean that everyone will like you. But that's life. In the end it will all balance out. And to be honest this girl does not sound like a good friend. I would find a new group of people to hang out with and just surround yourself with a positive atmosphere. Don't worry about her.

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Originally Posted by sim41

Okay, so I've had this best friend ever since the beginning of middle school. We've been super close and even been on outta state vacations together. She is quite a flirt and sometimes doesn't know when enough is enough. I had dated this guy off and on for a year and he always dumped me. I have a new boyfriend now who I've been with for six months. Well, she started dating my ex which at first ticked me off, but hey, what are you gonna do? They have been dating for five months now. Anyway, we usually have fights but we get through 'em. We were at our friends party on Saturday at a hotel and there was a wrestling team staying there that night. She got to talking to one of them and gave her number. We went back to our room and she started texting him. They were talking about us sneaking out to meet them since it was pretty late. He got to saying stuff like make out with me, hug, feel, flash me, etc. So she decided that her and another girl would sneak out later. She told none of us to mention this to her boyfriend. Well, I had already been texting my boyfriend and telling him this stuff, but he wouldn't tell. She eventually snuck out while we were sleeping and I don't know what went on. Yet, she always talks about how much she loves her boyfriend and doesn't want to screw things up. Well, I figured he outta know, right? I'd want to know. Soooooo, I kinda told him and she got dumped for it. Then freaked out on me for telling. Meanwhile she's telling him it was all a lie and never happened. And everyone at school's calling me a . I didn't really do anything wrong. She really should've stayed faithfull to him in the beginning and none of this would've happened. All I did was tell him. But she hates me now and blames me for everything. Didn't I do the right thing? What should I do? I just want her to realize that she shouldn't have done anything and she wouldn't be in this situation. HELP! :(

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"Believe nothing no matter where you read it, no matter who said it, no matter if I said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and common sense. "-Buddha

"An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast. A wild beast may hurt your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind. Avoid all hottie, conceded proud and arrogant minds. And remain peaceful and subdued."-Buddha

“Who is more foolish, the child afraid of the dark or the man afraid of the light?” ~Maurice Freehill
In this case, the light is honesty. Or so I see it as thus.

Right and wrong are a matter of how many people side with whom. Who ever has the most side with them, is right. That is the reality that most would like to ignore. Fine, ignore it, but it won't make it any less true, majority rules.

honor and respect seem to be few and far between these days.

You tell me, what should you have done, and what should you do now? What are your values, goals in life?

"Don't under estimate the power of one, for one may very well be more powerful than any combined..." - Benjamin T. S.

Peace and kindness be with you.