I was in a relationship for 2 years everything was going well and one day I get a call saying its over. I couldn't accept what he was saying so I did a bit of chasing which made his head go more big, had to find out the truth and I did. Id email him and text wanting to sort things out even though I knew the reason and was willing to put that behind he wasn't having any of it. I just couldn't stop myself id stop the contact for a few weeks then id end up sending him summat telling him how much I've missed him and want him back, sometimes I wouldn't get a reply and if I did it was like ' just leave me alone I don't want to be with anyone'. I heard he was telling his mates she's not over me shell never leave me, she sends me emails everyday don't see her moving forward but hope she's does, after hearing that showed me he's really weak I need to stop this to make his realize and see sense that he's losing someone special. Been 2 months haven't heard anything from him but 2 weeks ago I seen him at a café bar with a friend unexpectedly was very shocked, kept my cool and just got ordered my drinks didn't even look at him but I could tell he was feeling tense and nervous that am going to come up to him and create a scene or am going to start to make conversation with him because how could I not but I didn't. He looked stressed out to me I did catch him looking at me from behind a couple of times to see if that was me, I got my drinks and walked out just to let him know that I'm moving on was hard not talking and acting like strangers at a place were we always went together. Since seeing him its set me back because I ain't heard anything from him and am wondering what he thinking. I don't wans give in and contact him because its been hard just want to know what I should do I really love him and I know he's regretting what he's done!! But he won't contact me see we can sort things out?

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Don't contact him. You'll only be disappointed. If he wanted to contact you, he would've by now.

You'll find someone better. Someone who loves you for who you are. Someone who will treat you right and make you feel special.

I congratulate you on your bravery at the café bar, I think you did a good job.

Hey thanks :-) that's what everyone says but when u love someone its hard to accept. I hope it comes back to him one day he's hurt me a lot 2 much I was there for this guy through thick and thin. x

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I understand how much it must hurt after losing someone you have spent so much time with but at least you didn't spend any more of your life on a relationship that wasn't meant to be. As hard as it is its for the best to just "let the sleeping dog lie". Focus on yourself and being happy on your own without a man and the right guy will come along. If you can be a happy person on your own it will make your relationships in the future better and stronger for it.

I just need to become strong for myself. After seeing him been a bit weak keep thinking is he going to contact me. I just want to stop thinking about him but don't know how to??

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Do you have any other hobbies or activities that you enjoy? Is there anything that you enjoy doing that can help you take your mind off him?

You move on by moving on. This guy, for whatever reasons, decided not to be with you. I think what your looking for is closure. You what to know why he ended things? But sometimes you don't get that.

The only thing you can do is accept things and try your hardest to let go.

I can understand your hurting and confused but behind every dark cloud there is a rainbow waiting to appear.

You take it day by day but you don't contact him or accept any forms of communication from him. What don't kill you only makes you stronger and you still have life.

Get rid of anything that reminds you of him and when all the good memories of him pop into your head, remember the ending and immediately change your trail of thoughts. Go out and pamper yourself and hang out with friends for support. Don't watch any sad movies or play any sad depressing movies. Like Gloria Gaynor said "I will survive" so use that as your motto. And you can always come on here to vent.

He thinks your going to sweat him forever? What a piece of work! Leave him alone. It will be hard, but it will destroy you to feel constantly rejected time after time. You both need time to reflect on what happened. And NOOOOO DO NOT CONNECT HIM FOR ANY REASON:eek::eek:

Leave him alone, and take the suggestions of the other posters, to build a life that you enjoy, without him. It will take time and hard work, but it will get better.

I can only hope your spelling, and English, does as well.

Do you have a pet or are you in the position to adopt a pet? A dog can be a wonderful healer. If you adopted a dog you would find yourself with the ultimate man, kind and loyal who would love you unconditionally. There might be very few guys left that fit that description these days but if you checked your local shelter you'd find at least a dozen dogs just like that! ;) Just a thought.