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  • Apr 17, 2009, 07:37 PM
    mudweiser
    Is this a bad mommy move?
    My daughter is quite the tomboy. She's a big explorer, not big on t.v. loves her cat, and loves to put on my clothes and play in dirt.

    There's one thing she does that I am unsure of... she likes to go IN the dryer. She opens the door and just climbs right in.

    I'm not really bothered by it, but I'm also second guessing myself.

    Is it okay- or not? She's only 2.

    Should I stop this or just let her do it?

    Do your kids do odd things like that too? Or is it just mine?

    Sarah
  • Apr 17, 2009, 07:40 PM
    N0help4u

    I don't think the dryer sounds like a safe place for a two year old. I would find a way to get a hook on it or prop it closed so that she can't open the door.
  • Apr 17, 2009, 07:41 PM
    JoeCanada76

    My opinion do not allow her to go in there. Anything can happen, accidents do happen. You need to be firm with this. So yes even though it may be a fight on your hands. Got to stop this behaviour.

    Mine figures out a lot of things. Actually today my little one climbed up on his own high chair and sat himself down. He knows how to buckle himself and Unbuckle himself as well. He figured out the front locks and now we have to get more locks.
  • Apr 17, 2009, 07:56 PM
    J_9
    I concur with the advice above. It does not sound like a safe place to be. Remember how climbing into refrigerators is dangerous? What if she climbs in and you are not right there to help her out should she close the door on herself?
  • Apr 17, 2009, 08:01 PM
    mudweiser

    My gut was right. Thanks.. this is going to be a battle; she loves little corners and small spaces. I got her an indoor tunnel but she's gotten over it.

    This is going to be tough. Thanks for letting me know.

    Sarah
  • Apr 17, 2009, 08:10 PM
    mudweiser

    Quote:

    N0help4u agrees: and today the dryer... tomorrow the dishwasher or oven? Scary
    Let's not be silly. I don't have a dishwasher.

    Kidding.

    On a serious note: I really don't know what to do when it comes to "disciplining" her. She's actually a really good kid. She's had very few tantrums in which I dealt with fast and she doesn't have them any more. The dryer is upstairs in a room with no door- perhaps a baby gate.

    I really don't want to take her "safe" place away? Anyone have any suggestions or ideas where my little one can burrow?

    Sarah
  • Apr 17, 2009, 08:10 PM
    N0help4u

    Maybe take the tunnel and add 'rooms' to it
    Sort of like a maze that she or you can change the rooms around to keep it interesting.
  • Apr 17, 2009, 08:12 PM
    N0help4u
    Also my kids loved taking a blanket and making a tent.
    Or you could try just throwing a sheet over a table.
    Another one kids love is a big appliance box
  • Apr 17, 2009, 08:17 PM
    mudweiser

    Thanks N0help. I've tried the sheet over the table; she gets finicky about placement and it's like she knows blankets don't belong anywhere else but her bed. For a 2 year old she's really anal.

    Sarah
  • Apr 17, 2009, 08:20 PM
    N0help4u

    Maybe buy her a little tent.
    tents for kids - Live Search Images
  • Apr 17, 2009, 08:25 PM
    mudweiser

    Darn it; she's got one of those and a playhouse.

    What if I clear up a cabinet for her, or let her use the ones with just the plastic containers? I've seen her go in there before.

    The way she is she likes weird closed space like: behind the couch, under her bed, cabinets, and as said, the dryer.

    Do you think that has anything to do psychologically? She hasn't been through any trauma. Do you think she doesn't feel safe? ...or am I over analyzing?..

    Sarah
  • Apr 17, 2009, 08:28 PM
    Unknown008

    I hope you solve your problem soon... all the previous suggestions are good ones, really.

    (hey NH4U! Long time not seen! You still on the desert island? ;))
  • Apr 18, 2009, 10:47 AM
    J_9
    I always kept the cabinet under my sink empty and clean. My kids loved to go under there with toys, books and flashlights.
  • Apr 18, 2009, 10:52 AM
    artlady

    Get her a nice sized box to hide in.Something just a little bigger than she is.Its the hiding she is enjoying.Get her a box that has a cardboard flap on it,or tape a flap on it.
  • Apr 21, 2009, 03:57 PM
    Fuzzball_Kara

    Try big boxes.. I used to love those.
  • Apr 21, 2009, 04:15 PM
    liz28

    Get some chairs and sheets togethe to make her a fort. My daughter love doing to be in this with her flashlight and kiddie radio. I even brought her a kid tent to put in the living room to use as her hideout.

    For some reason my daughter used to like close spaces. It took me a while to get her from napping under her bed.
  • Apr 21, 2009, 04:23 PM
    jjwoodhull
    When I was little, my brother and I always emptied the tupperware cabinets and climbed in there. I still remember it. I think this is a much safer option then the dryer. Also, if you can't find her you will know she is in the cabinet because your stuff will be on the floor.

    You asked if there is a psychological issue to her crawling into small spaces - I would think not. Lots of kids do it. I think its more a matter of a healthy imagination.
  • Apr 21, 2009, 04:26 PM
    Sunflowers

    My little guy is into everything he can possibly imagine or think of. He even tries to fit into his little cars and trucks :) I wouldn't let him climb into the dryer though... I'd be afraid that he might do it again and again and maybe someday he might end up accidentally in there when it gets turned on Yikes!
  • Apr 22, 2009, 08:24 AM
    this8384

    Personall, I think you're overanalyzing. I used to empty out the cabinet that my parents kept their "tupperware" in and sit in it on a daily basis. My 2-year-old crawled into a cupboard a few weeks ago.

    I don't think she has "security issues", so to speak. I think she's just a curious little girl... much like mine :) Let her crawl behind the couch, but the dryer is definitely a no-no! Tell her no and explain to her that it's not safe... she's smart enough to understand you, I guarantee it :)
  • Apr 22, 2009, 08:30 AM
    mudweiser

    No worries guys. I had a bad mommy moment.

    I babygated that room. I went to a kids store here in my city and bought a "cave" like play place. I ended having to move my dinner table and I put it in a corner of the dining room, I also put the tunnel at the enterance of this cave- she loves it.

    Here's what it looks like:
    http://www.kidsbabydesign.com/wp-con...igloo-tent.jpg

    Sarah

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