Hi guys, I have been back on the dating scene again, but I haven't had much experience in it. I'm hoping to get advice from all of the people here. Man, relationships and dating are so hard, but it it's suppose to be lots of fun. When it gets difficult you work through it, but for the most part it should be happier than sad.

I met Harry last year and we chatted a bit on Facebook and he would call me up about a club I attended at school. However, he was pursuing me at the same time another guy was interested in me. I really liked the other guy and we started a relationship. I think Harry caught wind of that from the gossip mills on campus. Thus, we stopped talking for a while.

During the summer he would randomly send me a short message and I would message him back. Then I also invited him to a party during the early summer, but I didn't talk with him much when he went to the party. After that, he disappeared.

When school started we didn't talk at all, but he started sending me messages a LOT recently. This was around the time I became single again. He has also asked me to go get lunch with him. I've been really busy lately so it was difficult to plan a time. He told me that it sounded like a bunch of excuses. Anyway, we did go out for lunch once, but he didn't pay nor drive. I don't really care about that, but I don't know how to take that, especially since he hasn't been messaging me recently.

I'm not sure if I should give him a call or suggest a place to go, since he has been doing all of the "work," but at the same time I like it when the guy takes initiative.

did he do the asking for the lunch or you? And did he pay for himself?

As for the fact that he hasn't messaged you lately; you could try to send him a txt or call (calling is a good idea) and ask him to lunch, or dinner or maybe you could hang out and see a movie? If he is interested in that and you find a time that fits for the both of you then you can see what happens and take it from there. ;)

If he isn't interested you'll prob get the vibe right away.

as for telling you that it sounds like a bounch of exhuses, personally, if a guy I was trying to find time to have lunch with, told me that... I'd be a bit offended. Mostly because life can be crazy at times and sometimes its hard to find a time that fit both you and the other person.

(lol, but that's me ;))

it does seem as if he did like you before you x and that he might have done when you became single, but I get that you are hesitant seeing as you haven't heard anything since the lunch. So making him an offer sounds like a good idea, if he is someone you think you will have fun with ;)

best of luck!

Roxy

I have come to the conclusion that he's just a friend. Maybe not even a really good one. We just talk occasionally at events, but we don't hang out together apart from that.

It's just nice that some times he sends me messages and when we're at the same event together he would come and sit near me. Two things that my ex never did for me. :) I really liked it when he sent me a lot of texts asking where I was and what I was doing, but he hasn't been doing that nowadays. So... onward we go!

He was the one who asked me to lunch, however, he didn't even say it was for lunch. He had asked me to hang out with him, but I didn't know that we were going to be eating. Well, the short of the story is that we both paid for ourselves. I did message him and call him (before my last post), and he seemed distant so I came to the above conclusion.

Well, when he found out that you had a boyfriend, he had to keep his distance. Or else he will be really hurt, so he was just protecting himself.

I guess he somehow found out that you were single, which is why he started messaging you more often.

He sounds very shy though, only sticking to text messages mostly. But then you gave him quite a few excuses for not seeing him, so there might have been a misunderstanding. He probably thought that you were not interested, so he started backing off because he didn't want to get hurt.

But then you finally get a chance to go out with him, but he probably didn't get very many positive vibes or maybe he lost interest in you, so he's not looking for you.

Sounds like he's really shy, but he did ask to hang out quite a few times, but you only went out that 1 time.

If you are interested, maybe you should show it to him, so he doesn't get so discouraged when he's asking you out. Let him know that you are interested in going out again, but let him do the asking... that's a good compromise I think.

If you give him enough hints and he's still not taking the initiative, then you can move on knowing that you did your part.

Yeah, he actually started dating or was in a relationship with someone when I was in a relationship. Then, I'm not sure whether he was still in the relationship or not. From all the signs, I'm pretty sure that he's not in a relationship.

However, I called him up to talk with him. He said that he was packing his things. I asked him where he was moving. He said that he was moving to the South Pole (which I know is a lie because he's still attending university and I know he's just kidding). I played along for a bit saying that it would be cool to see the penguins there. He responded by telling me that there would be no penguins because they all died due to global warming. After that I got a little annoyed and didn't keep the conversation going on that topic.

I would advise against dating anyone named Mr. X

heheh

Okay, so I am closing the chapter on Harry.