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  • Apr 16, 2009, 11:45 AM
    Meatbag
    Needing some searious move onage!
    Ok so here's the story, my ex... the one I still had feelings for and I had this big fight about her liking another guy back in January essentaly ending the friendship and all. We didn't speak for about a month afterward. I got into this new relationship with a girl and getting deeper into the relationship I started feeling bad how things with my ex ended. So I wrote her a quick e-mail apologizing for how everything had to go down. She wrote back saying how sad she was things ended the way they did. One night we were texting and I ask her how things with this guy were going (just out of curiosity cause we were cathcing up on each others lives) she says she's just flying solo for now and then she asked about me... I wasn't going to lie and I told her I was dating again... She was surprised and wanted to know who with. I told her about us, I was somewhat proud cause I proved that I can move on.
    She asked me if I wanted to hangout with her the next day if it wasn't "too wierd". I said sure cause she's my friend and I wanted our friendship back. We hung out it was kind of awkward considering the last time we spoke in person. I was nervous talking to her and I could hear my voice starting to tremble and I hear hers trembling too. She told me about how she is no longer speaking to a family member that hurts her and other tremondous stirdes she had made in her life. After that awkward meeting I texted her later that night saying "sorry if things were kinda awkward earlier". She said "Oh they werent awkward for me at all". I said "Well thats good" and we pleasently talked for a little while after. A week went by and I texted her asking what was up and she tells me she just got home from a date with this guy she works with. I was all nice and supportive about it and she was just telling me about how tired she was and that the guy was an OK guy. So I let her go and the next week she texts me and I find out that she's talking to that family member that hurt her again. Another week goes by and I text her and she's going on another date with this guy. And then I find out that this guy she is dating is like ten years older than her making it ileagle and just weird. I voiced my concern about the situation and we get into another argument. I stopped it this time before it escalated. A week later she texted me and I just ignored it. I realized I still had feelings for her. And have since been trying to get over them once again. How the hell can I get over her for good! Please any help is very very much apreciated!
  • Apr 16, 2009, 12:17 PM
    unknown51

    Well its good that you almost moved on but some girls like smaller then her some like bigger some like the same age my point is

    If you keep chasing yesterday you'll miss tomorrow

    p.s. this might be wired for you by taking advice from a 12 year old
  • Apr 16, 2009, 12:20 PM
    mudweiser

    Keep yourself busy. Do productive things with your time! Here is a thread that will fill your head up with ideas: List of things to do after a breakup

    It's great your moving on!

    Sarah
  • Apr 16, 2009, 01:34 PM
    Justwantfair
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by unknown51 View Post
    well its good that you almost moved on but some girls like smaller then her some like bigger some like the same age my point is

    if you keep chasing yesterday you'll miss tomorrow

    p.s. this might be wired for you by taking advice from a 12 year old

    If you keep chasing tomorrow you will miss today!
  • Apr 19, 2009, 07:48 PM
    HelpinHere

    It's good that you are moving on.
    You seem to be ready, while she isn't.
    You're right that she shouldn't be dating someone that much older than her at her age (assuming she is only around 17, since you ARE posting in teens). It's great that you still care for her without trying to gain anything from it, but she doesn't seem to be able to accept that.

    I would recommend, right now, just keeping away from her. She seems to not be stable when around you (especially since denying nervousness when around you).
    You can try to continue your friendship, but it doesn't seem best for HER right now.

    Just keep doing what you are doing, and you should be fine!
  • May 10, 2009, 10:47 AM
    unknown51
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Justwantfair View Post
    If you keep chasing tomorrow you will miss today!

    Hmmmmmm good point

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