I met him online last year in March. He is a big man. And I am a tiny girl. He is interested in me because I am small. He doesn't really like big girls. He was cheated by his marriage. So he is very cautious in love with me.He is divorced with a little boy. The boy is very good-behave kid. He applied his visa successfully before October,2008. It's his first time to travel in Asia Country. And both of us do want to see if we can work out in reality. I rejected him at the beginning when I know he is married before. At that time, I fell in love with a spanish man. But he is such a workaholic. And I go back to him and tell him if we can work out. So finally. He came here and visit me. He spent seven days here every time he came here to see me. The first time is October,the second is February 2009. He visited me every time when I have 7 days holiday.Then we can be together all day long.

He is kind of waiting for me to keep close to him. And it makes me feel that he doesn't love me as much as I do. I feel insecure with him. We do talk about marriage lately. But I am hesitate now as I feel insecure with him.I am going to move to US with him. I am so worried about my job and my life in a new country.

I worry my job because I didn't get enough education. People starts to fight because of financial problem;
I worry my life because I feel insecure with him while falling in love with him by internet. We just had two times staying together in reality. It's so dangerous if I can't feel secure with him.

I don't want to give up as both of us have been putted so much effort in our relationship. We have been emailing each other everyday for many many emails...

I love to be loved by him but it seems he doesn't want to give me enough attention...

That makes me feel like to give up...

Don't know what should I do now.. . I am lost again. I feel that I am always lost in life. I always run into crossroads...

I am 23 years old and he is 33

I feel that there's so much reason that I should leave him... as I am not so open like foreigners... I don't want to leave him but it seems I should leave him...
I do take him home and most of the people I know are all know about him already...

Is there anybody can give me some suggestions ? Thx so much!!

Pray to god everyday so that gradually he will give you give answer as enlightenment to your situation.God is a true genious.he is perfect.he is a true friend.we cannot see him but we can solicit his enlightenments through our constant everyday prayer.and he is a loving god that he will give us what we ever ask for that is good for us though we are in our sinful ways.

STAY AWAY! The answer is YES, let him go...

There are so many things wrong with what you're telling us.

1) First of all, he was cheating on his wife because he wanted to start something with you. How do you know he won't cheat on you?
2) He likes small girls? Sounds like he only wants to have sex.
3) Even if you get together with him, he has a son. So you're going to have to deal with all his problems family too.
4) You don't even trust him.
5) You seem very insecure about yourself, so you're clearly not ready for a relationship. Especially with someone who has such a huge history.
6) You have your own problems (job, new country, etc.), you don't need to add his problems into your life.

I suggest you stay single and worry about yourself first. STAY AWAY from him.

2) He likes small girls? Sounds like he only wants to have sex.

Why is this ? I don't really get it. How could it related to Smaill girl..

Please tell me about this ! Tks

Hi My dear friend

Can you tell me why is it related to small girl
I don't really get it

2) He likes small girls? Sounds like he only wants to have sex.

He keep telling me stay horny...

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STAY AWAY! The answer is YES, let him go...

There are so many things wrong with what you're telling us.

1) First of all, he was cheating on his wife because he wanted to start something with you. How do you know he won't cheat on you?
2) He likes small girls? Sounds like he only wants to have sex.
3) Even if you get together with him, he has a son. So you're going to have to deal with all his problems family too.
4) You don't even trust him.
5) You seem very insecure about yourself, so you're clearly not ready for a relationship. Especially with someone who has such a huge history.
6) You have your own problems (job, new country, etc.), you don't need to add his problems into your life.

I suggest you stay single and worry about yourself first. STAY AWAY from him.

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Originally Posted by lovedude

Hi My dear friend

can you tell me why is it related to small girl
I don't really get it

2) He likes small girls? Sounds like he only wants to have sex.

he keep telling me stay horny..........

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I said this because normal guys won't say something like that.

You really need to stay away from this guy.

1) First of all, he was cheating on his wife because he wanted to start something with you. How do you know he won't cheat on you?

Sorry, you misunderstood. Hehe he is divorced already with a kid. He was cheated by his wife... and he was so scared to be cheated again...

2) He likes small girls? Sounds like he only wants to have sex.

Really... does it matter with small size girl ?

3) Even if you get together with him, he has a son. So you're going to have to deal with all his problems family too.

He just has a son. And the boy a is kind and good boy. His parents won't in charge of his marriage. We will move to a new apartment of our own. That's what he said.

4) You don't even trust him.

Yup exactly... I feel insecure when he doesn't keep close to me. I feel very happy and secure once he keep close to me

5) You seem very insecure about yourself, so you're clearly not ready for a relationship. Especially with someone who has such a huge history.

Yes I do... insecure about myself... I am lost...
Still a immature gilr

6) You have your own problems (job, new country, etc.), you don't need to add his problems into your life.

You are quite right, I willl take a careful consideration this time. Thanks so much for your suggestions and advice!

I suggest you stay single and worry about yourself first. STAY AWAY from him.

Worry about myself... haha what did you mean... I know I should learn to be a Mature Girl

He told me he doesn't like big girl in American...
So he choose Asia women. He was cheated seriously... and he doesn't like tall girls at all...
This is what he told me...

I feel insecure because he doesn't act ative in our relationship. I mean he won't keep close to me first... He keeps close to me when I am sweet and sexy... hehe
Because he was hurt... so I understand about this.

I always expect he will call me he will email me he will do something for me... And I got mad at him when he didn't do what I expect... He is so scared that I was mad at him many times in a month! There's one time I got really mad at him. And he told me he doesn't know what to do. He told me I got mad at him out of reason... He really don't know what is his mistake...

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I said this because normal guys won't say something like that.

You really need to stay away from this guy.

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1) First of all, he was cheating on his wife because he wanted to start something with you. How do you know he won't cheat on you?

Sorry, you misunderstood. Hehe he is divorced already with a kid. He was cheated by his wife... and he was so scared to be cheated again...

Well, wasn't he chatting with you while he was still with his wife? Even if he didn't cheat physically, he cheated emotionally.

2) He likes small girls? Sounds like he only wants to have sex.

Really... does it matter with small size girl ?

Like I said, no normal guy would say something like this without sex on their mind. Don't worry so much about this part, it's not that important.

3) Even if you get together with him, he has a son. So you're going to have to deal with all his problems family too.

He just has a son. And the boy a is kind and good boy. His parents won't in charge of his marriage. We will move to a new apartment of our own. That's what he said.

Yea, you don't have to deal with his problems yet, but you will when you live together with him and his son.

4) You don't even trust him.

Yup exactly... I feel insecure when he doesn't keep close to me. I feel very happy and secure once he keep close to me

Without trust there's no relationship

5) You seem very insecure about yourself, so you're clearly not ready for a relationship. Especially with someone who has such a huge history.

Yes I do... insecure about myself... I am lost...
Still a immature gilr

Just be single for a while. Focus on yourself.

6) You have your own problems (job, new country, etc.), you don't need to add his problems into your life.

You are quite right, I willl take a careful consideration this time. Thanks so much for your suggestions and advice!

I suggest you stay single and worry about yourself first. STAY AWAY from him.

Worry about myself... haha what did you mean... I know I should learn to be a Mature Girl

Yeah, fix your own problems before getting boyfriend

Lovedude is a troll so don't entertain his/her question.

Hi Beauty Sorry I didn't quite cacth you . I am a chinese it's hard for me to understand you wihout enough english ability.

Haha Hi can you explain to me more clearly...

He and me, our love starts from the time I called him Dude
Mr Dude... He likes the way I call him like that. Usually girls won't call a guy Dude
But just guys call guys like that...

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Lovedude is a troll so don't entertain his/her question.

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