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  • Apr 15, 2009, 02:27 PM
    Natasha44
    Confused Sexual Orientation
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    :confused:Well, I am completely in love with my best friend, and I know that he loves me too. Yet, he says he can't be with me because he is confused about his sexual orientation. The fact that he maybe swinging the other way, does not seem to have any effect on the way I feel, I still love him deeply. He seems to shy away from me, and seems scared to talk to me about it. He still hasn't been able to discuss it with me, and wrote it out.

    I wish there was something I could do to help him, and myself to get over him.

    He says he loves me, but can't be with me, because he doesn't want to put me through the "trauma" of his experimentation.

    What do I do?
  • Apr 15, 2009, 03:24 PM
    snow124
    Appreciate his honesty, and realize you can't be with him.
  • Apr 15, 2009, 03:40 PM
    liz28

    If your feelings are too deep for him, which I think it is, maybe you should limit yourself around him. I am sure he would understand.
  • Apr 16, 2009, 09:05 AM
    talaniman

    Do what he says, and let him experiment, and find himself.
  • Apr 16, 2009, 09:15 AM
    shazamataz

    You can either respect his wishes to not partake in sexual activities with you.

    Or

    Talk to him about it again.
    Remember though, you have to be prepared for the emotional rollercoaster of him experimenting with other people and also sleeping with you then possibly deciding that he is homosexual.
    Also be wary of your friendship changing afterwards, he may feel awkward after being with you sexually.

    Edited as a meant to say homo not hetro
  • Apr 16, 2009, 09:21 AM
    artlady

    You are not going to change his orientation by any means.If you think that is even a remote possibility,you need to know it won't happen.
    Respect him and give him the support a friend would and do not compound his current situation by asking for more than he can give.

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