Is it possible to be friends after breakup? Just seems so hard!
Little background,
I met this girl back in end of Jan, we hit things off right away, staying out late nite's at restaurants just talking until 12-1am getting to know each other more. Week later, the actual dating began, I've never been so into someone, and ever so romantic, fireplace/candlelite dinners, staying in restaurants until they kick us out after their done cleaning up, I took her to someone where she's never been kissed before, atop a observatory on 94th floor of building in downtown Chicago.
I had separated from my EX, in the beginning of Jan whom I have 3 kids with I see her only to pick up the kids each weekend, and this girl has one son whom she has no contact with his father whatsoever.
Little after a month of dating, she thinks be best to be just friends. Since then we still have spoken every day nearly every hour of every day, txtn. I have found it incredibly hard to just see as a friend, and she's made it clear is all she wants, not even romantic friends.
She is coming over tomorrow for dinner, thought in my mind that lingers is, How in the world could I even handle being friends once she wants to begin dating or hooking up with other people? I have been asked on dates over past two weeks by other girls, but have turned them down, as its not who I want to be with or where I want to be. I really don't think I could handle it, she made a comment yesterday "really would like sum *** without any strings attached", I being a man of course offered, but said we cannot, because I'm special, and cannot do that. That's got me thinking I don't think I could handle staying friends with her, knowing that she is with someone else, would this be pretty much why majority of people do not remain friends with their ex's?
I was thinking of talking with her tomorrow evening about this, and that would have to be all or nothing because I can't handle being dumped, wanting to stay close friends, and watching her hook up with someone else, am I wrong to think like this?