I work in a small company and have been there for 15 years. My boss is a "smart ", she is also rude and a backstabber. I have confronted her about her rudeness she says and acts like she understands and then in a few days we are back to square one. She also procastinates, is very lazy and spends a lot of time doing personal stuff at work, comes in and leaves when she wants but somehow has convinced people that she works hard.

I work hard at my job and it really frustrates me to she her goof off and get away with stuff at the same time showing complete disrespect. I have a good working relationship with my bosses - boss and actaully talked to him about the disrespect (not about the slacking and doing personal stuff) But he seems to defend my boss and says that I should talk to her. Well, done that and it does not work, just makes things worse.

There some overlap between what I do and what my boss does, so I thought maybe she is threatened by me and that's why the bad behavior. I tend to work hard and do my job well which sometimes may show up my boss, especially when I get public compliments from my bosses-boss. In one of my converstaions with my boss, I told her causaully that I didn't want her job, just want to do my job well. Thinking maybe she would be at ease... well no change there. :confused:

Not sure if I should address it again with my bosses - boss, am concerned about readdressing some of the things I mentioned above as I think my bossess - boss will only defend her again and if the word gets out that I am in dialog with the bosses boss things can get bad.

So, how do you handle a lazy, lying, backstabbing boss. Please don't say find another job :) I have too much time "equity" in the company.

Any advise would be appreciated.

The thing is,she is your boss.you have confronted her,you have made an official complaint,all have fallen on deaf ears.

What's next?

If she is covering as best as you say,she will eventually get caught.

Sometimes you have to pick your battles,I'm sure her behavior is head wreaking,and now its spilled over into outside office hours.

Continue doing your job well,keep your head down and your bosses will and have seen your doing a good job.

At the end of the day she is your boss, in fact you normally should be doing your job and not try to tell your boss how to do their job, that is their issue between them and their boss.

Going to another boss or even complaining too much to your own boss, can often mean the end to your own employment. Time to start working your own work and leave them alone

Thanks for the advice. You guys are right and I should ignore all the negative behaviour. I guess eventually what goes around comes around.

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Originally Posted by devcon7

I work in a small company and have been there for 15 years. My boss is a "smart ", she is also rude and a backstabber. I have confronted her about her rudeness she says and acts like she understands and then in a few days we are back to square one. She also procastinates, is very lazy and spends a lot of time doing personal stuff at work, comes in and leaves when she wants but somehow has conviced people that she works hard.

I work hard at my job and it really frustrates me to she her goof off and get away with stuff at the same time showing complete disrespect. I have a good working realtionship with my bosses - boss and actaully talked to him about the disrespect (not about the slacking and doing personal stuff) But he seems to defend my boss and says that I should talk to her. Well, done that and it does not work, just makes things worse.

There some overlap between what I do and what my boss does, so I thought maybe she is threatend by me and thats why the bad behavior. I tend to work hard and do my job well which somtimes may show up my boss, especially when I get public compliments from my bosses-boss. In one of my converstaions with my boss, I told her causaully that I didn't want her job, just want to do my job well. Thinking maybe she would be at ease... well no change there. :confused:

Not sure if I should address it again with my bosses - boss, am concerned about readdressing some of the things I mentioned above as I think my bossess - boss will only defend her again and if the word gets out that I am in dialog with the bosses boss things can get bad.

So, how do you handle a lazy, lying, backstabbing boss. Please don't say find another job :) I have too much time "equity" in the company.

Any advise would be appreciated.

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I think your boss has psychological and emotional issues. If she could confide in you she would tell you a lot about herself, and you would become her best friend. Don't think she has lots of friends.. As long as you keep the jobs and you like your job, just accept it as it is and no matter what don't take it personally. It's not you who forced her to behave like this.It's her issues that are unresolved and for that reason she places anger, uncomfortability onto others. I think her personal life is pretty haotic also.I understand it is difficult but just see her as a big uneducated child and think of yourself as a better person than her, and I think that is true as hardly someone who suffered harassment will be harraser herself given vice versa situation..

Often when you confront a boss or manager it sort of gives them the upper hand because they know what buttons to push to get on your nerves.
My son confronted the managers and ended up calling corporate because of their mis-managment all it got him was ostristised to the point he quit.

One thing I would do would be to start privately documenting her behavior for your own records. Instead of trying to reason with her in person, try emailing so you have written documentation of her rudeness or lack of accountability if it comes up. Don't try to set her up or anything, just gather information. Also, don't let anyone know you are doing this. You want to be able to protect yourself if a situation should arise in the future where she does actually do something to threaten your job or try to undermine you.
You may never need to use this information but if it should come to it, you don't want to be in a situation where it's her word against yours.
I'm part of a class action law suit right now with a number of employees from my former corporation and the lawyers are asking for documentation and saved emails- I wish I would have documented everything!