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  • Apr 12, 2009, 11:29 PM
    mississippi1848
    Is it over between us
    5 threads merged

    I was in a relationship for over three years, engaged for a year, a month before the wedding she calls off the engagement, quits her job and moves back home to Texas with her parents and now doesn't want any contact for two years with me, I'm 29 and she is 25, what happen, is it a nervous breakdown or what should I think of all this
  • Apr 12, 2009, 11:37 PM
    Blushingbride

    I would have to know more about the girl but she could have been scared, maybe she was cheating and thought she got caught, maybe cold feet, maybe her family didn't approve, etc. It could be anything but my advice to you, it has been two years just let it go because I don't think you'll ever find out why now even if you asked her.
  • Apr 13, 2009, 12:22 AM
    none12345

    Please dont double post on this forum just update it on the one you had before and its almost identical to this one.

    By the end of 2 years, lots of things would have happened. That is probably just an easy way to break up with you. Im sure she would have found someone else already by then or she just might want some alone time to get her life on track without your influence. Anyway the relationship seems to be over.
  • Apr 13, 2009, 11:50 PM
    JoeCanada76

    Good question. In reality though it does not matter the reason. She did it. Finding out why even if that is possible will not make anything easier. The fact that she did all this says that she was not ready to live life on her own. What is so special, why no contact for 2 years. This is not normal behaviour but with that said you no what you need to do?
  • Apr 14, 2009, 12:08 AM
    JoeCanada76

    I do not know, but honestly I understand why your in denial and have so many questions but these questions are not going to help you out any. Also instead of asking several different questions why not have everything in one thread, one post so everybody can see all the details of the question instead of a question here and a question there.

    2 years, one way of trying to put your life on hold. As far as I am concerned she has ended it. Why 2 years. Should have asked her when it happened. DO NOT PUT YOUR LIFE ON HOLD FOR SOMEBODY THAT LEFT YOU LIKE THIS.
  • Apr 14, 2009, 04:15 AM
    Dare81

    She does not want any contact with you for the next 2 years? Why 2??

    Is she going to stop acting crazy after 2 years.
  • Apr 14, 2009, 05:57 AM
    I wish

    Wow, I'm really sorry to hear about this. This can really be fustrating, especially if you don't know why.

    You're going to have to try to make the best out of a bad situation. If she doesn't want you to contact her for 2 years, then you'll have to respect that.

    But ask yourself this, do you want a girl like this? Someone who will treat you so abruptly? Be glad that she did this to you before getting married. Now you know what type of person she is.
  • Apr 14, 2009, 05:14 PM
    mississippi1848
    Is she ready for dating
    I'm 29 and I know a woman who I grew up with and her divorce is all most final and she has three year old, I ask her last week that we should go out sometime and she said yes that sounds like fun, she then said she will call me, although she doesn't have my number. Is she ready for dating or does she just want more time to get her life in order
  • Apr 14, 2009, 06:10 PM
    JoeCanada76

    Is this for real. You almost got married and now all of a sudden your asking another person to go out? You get over things quickly?

    Do you remember all the other questions you were asking?
  • Apr 14, 2009, 06:16 PM
    JoeCanada76

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...rs-341246.html

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...do-341240.html

    2 + 2 = 7 according to you. All your posts together do not add up.
  • Apr 14, 2009, 06:24 PM
    ylaira
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by mississippi1848 View Post
    Is she ready for dating or does she just want more time to get her life in order

    Sure she needs more time. Not a big contradiction since she just got divorced and your marriage was just called off. Both of you need to slow things down... on your own.
  • Apr 14, 2009, 08:15 PM
    mississippi1848

    Yeah, your right, her and I think would be good to talk about our situations, I'm nowhere near from being in a relationship anytime soon, just would like to get out to dinner and here an opinion from a female
  • Apr 14, 2009, 08:20 PM
    mudweiser

    Be there for support. It takes a lot out of you when your divorcing. I believe that it takes at least a year to get your s--t together [pardon my french]. I'm sure if you like her now and your feelings are true you will be able to wait that extra year.

    You really don't want to end up being the proverbial rebound, or having the issues that she had in her past relationship dirty your new relationship.

    Sarah
  • Apr 14, 2009, 09:21 PM
    starbuck8

    Why would you consider waiting for her for two yrs. To begin with? Your questions are quite contradictory. We've read your other questions here. Don't play with us please.
  • Apr 14, 2009, 09:32 PM
    friend4u178
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by mississippi1848 View Post
    After my fiancee calls off the engagement, she doesn't want any contact for two years, why wouldn't she just say forever

    That's probably what she means anyway!!
  • Apr 15, 2009, 06:55 AM
    I wish
    Did she watch My Sassy Girl (korean version)? The girl in that movie made him wait 2 years. He ended up waiting 3 because she was not ready. They ended up together, but that's just a fantasy.
  • Apr 15, 2009, 03:21 PM
    mississippi1848
    No contact for two years
    Threads merged again, for the last time


    I will admit, this is by far the toughest thing I've ever been through, I thought about going out with a friend of mine that I grew up with, but I don't think it would feel right. My ex and I have agreed order to not have any contact for two years and I'm wondering if she is hurting, maybe not as much as I am or will it be a while before she starts dating, I mean I would be shocked if she has a boyfriend at the end of the year. Is she even thinking about dating anytime soon?

    Threads merged again, for the last time
  • Apr 15, 2009, 03:30 PM
    ylaira
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by I wish View Post
    Did she watch My Sassy Girl (korean version)? The girl in that movie made him wait 2 years. He ended up waiting 3 because she was not ready. They ended up together, but that's just a fantasy.

    Yeah it is a fantasy... how could a frog get into a capsule buried in the ground for 3 years?
  • Apr 15, 2009, 03:44 PM
    ylaira

    Another duplicate thread...
  • Apr 16, 2009, 09:02 AM
    talaniman

    Threads merged again, for the last time

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